Unfollow , block or blacklist at your comfort.
Look in whatever fandom you are in you will meet people that right off that bat you will not get along. They will be into things or say things you do not agree with and you know what? Its okay to unfollow, block or blacklist their url. It doesn’t matter that your friends are their friends. A friendship between you cannot be forced upon.
Please respect your friends when they do this. Yes you might be friends with this other person but you can’t make your friends be in one place if one is uncomfortable with the other. It is the the most stressful and manipulative thing you can do.
Later on you will also make friends with some who at first you click very well. Yes you feel close. Heck you are friends but that friend will break once you find out more about your friend. You find out they like stuff you don’t agree with. They have actually hurt people you are close with too. Do you have to be friends with this person? No you don’t. It doesn’t matter how close you are. If you are no longer comfortable you can get away from them.
It is okay to forgive them , ask them ti give you space for a while or simply not give them another chance.
BUT DON’T FORCE YOURSELF TO BE IN THE FRIENDSHIP ANYMORE IN FEAR THIS WILL HURT THEM. BECAUSE IN THE END YOU ARE THE ONE WHO IS GETTING HURT LITTLE BY LITTLE BY STAYING WITH SOMEONE YOU ARE NO LONGER COMFORTABLE WITH.
I am posting this because I noticed that this is happening a lot with my friends. They meet people, turns out they are really not nice and feel forced to be there with them. They get scared if they leave, said person will talk about them to others or guilt trip them to stay. But let me tell you this.
YOU DO WHAT YOU GOTTA DO TO BE COMFORTABLE IN YOUR BLOG!
YOU HAVE THE CHOICE WHO TO BE FRIENDS WITH!
YOU CAN UNFOLLOW, BLOCK OR BLACKLIST!
YOU DO NOT HAVE TO FEEL GUILTY ABOUT IT!
And please, you do not need to go other to your friend to make them chose you or that other said person. You do not need to force them to be friends because of you either. Because besides hurting yourself, you are hurting another friend of yours.
Yes I know it hurts to maybe read this. But not all friendships are perfect or last long but my gosh I want to do my best in letting you know all of this to avoid hurting yourself and others.
This was a very long post, which I do apologize, but this is what I was going through in my hiatus and saw many of my friends dealing with. As I say so many times and I will probably wont stop saying this...
YOU DO WHAT YOU GOTTA DO TO BE COMFORTABLE IN YOUR BLOG!!
If this kind of mentality that I have bothers you, its okay for you to the following to my blogs. Don’t feel you need to stay here. You don’t need to tell me either you no longer want to follow me or be a friend. In the end I want you too to be comfortable in your own blogs. I just ask please keep yourself from sending anon hate to me or to others who do this.
I hope that anyone who is dealing with these kind of situations understand that you are not alone and you are not bad person for making these choices.
Yes you may reblog this and add your comment if you want. Am I open to discuss about this? Yes. I will give you my option and let you know more of my experiences but I will not force these upon you. Ever. I just want you to know these are choices you can take for your own comfort.
