#rossliz

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the concept of a man who was forced to stay away from his fiance, try his everything to move forward in his life and start anew (and even achieves it in small pockets of his life) but the moment he even thinks of his fiance or sees her for a split second and his love for her hits his bloodstream like crack is something that is completely unable to be understood and appreciated by the poldark fandom apparently

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aidan was so sexy for never going to another convention after he was in the middle of explaining the rossliz dynamic and the interviewer jumped in and called liz a bitch and he immediately stopped talking about the original subject and defended her (idk if he never went to another convention but that's the only one that i know he went to we can be a little silly you know!!!!)

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i may have said this on twitter already but i don't think on here so i'll say it now. one of the main reasons why i fight against the agenda that mella is ross' saving grace is halfway because of the misogynistic implications. yes ross and liz together made mistakes, liz was pressured not only by her suffocating mother but also society, so while blame her less harshly, she still made the decision.

ross was too heartbroken over everything because of the implications at the time that if liz called off the engagement it would have destroyed francis' reputation who was already such a fragile person in the first place.

so why is it that liz stays so miserable she is literally killed for her decision whereas ross gets to frolic off in peace, wiping his brow and saying "Whew, dodged that bullet"????? um no ross poldark, get your sorry hide over here and stay in the cloud of misery the BOTH of you created. the idea that the half of the relationship (the woman ofc) is left quite literally for dead and the man gets to have everything isn't something i'm gonna stand for.

and like i said this is one of the reasons. yeah i believe ross and liz are a far better match, they understand each other better, they are a natural state of love (which was implied in the show) etc etc but i'm not referring to that right now. and i guess one could argue "Well Ross isn't living in perfection, his wife cheated on him and he always has to keep fighting keeping the marriage alive" well to that i say yes fighting to keep a relationship alive whereas liz is actually NOT alive. women aren't your chess pieces to "evolve" or "realize" something and are left to rot (again, quite literally in liz' case) whereas you're "developing". i would even argue that's why they straight up lied that the ross and liz scene would be consensual, because if it actually was plainly what everyone expected it to be then there would be even less chance for people to justify romelza as the whirlwind heart-stopping romance. even with what we were given, even now the fanbase is utterly OBSESSED with the scene we were given even though they have the canon time stopping love of all time, and this is in the books AND show fandom. the response isn't "Yeah it's a messy moment for Ross, but some good comes out of it", no most everyone is perpetually frozen in the actual ACT ITSELF of what ross and liz did because of the undeniable (and unrepeatable) confirmation of a 10+yr passionate love that was strong as an iron rod no matter what was thrown at it. that's why you still get questions to this day "Did you think Ross intended to sleep with her" and "What are your thoughts on the very bad thing" even though YEARS AND YEARS later it's pretty much irrelevant.

so if the fandom is obsessed because they know it's not only impossible for ross to do the same for mella but for ANYONE ELSE in the entire series, how am i supposed to let liz get dropped off the edge of a cliff and cheer for ross skipping off in the roses? his character (at least in the show) is being tied to his past, tied to his family, tied to his environment that raised him into the man he is but magically that doesn't apply when it comes to who he loves?

i want to make it clear that i'm not saying ross doesn't love his wife, i'm saying that his wife isn't a get-out-of-jail-free card on the other woman he loves. she is the other half to why their lives are split but always connected. the point of ross is that in areas of his life, he DOES take a foot forward (selling the mine, becoming a politician, marrying) but is smacked four footsteps back by his past (and we can't forget the familial bloodline curse that says the poldarks are not privvy to letting go). yes ross can sell the mine but it will forever be haunted by his cousin's death. he can become a politician but desire to just stay in his trenwith home. so i refuse to be gaslit in regards to his and liz' shared love and most importantly i refuse to let the male get off scot free. he deserves to suffer on his end too.

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something i think about that i find hilarious is if you look in the S4 finale summary it will say something like "ross and elizabeth attempt to repair their marriages" (that was at least a year ago so maybe it's changed now but that's what it said at the time) which is SO FUNNY to me bc i thought mella was the main heroine right? so even if liz were to be included it could have read something like "Ross, Demelza and Elizabeth attempt to repair their marriages" BUT NO. it was just ross and liz. HOW MAIN CHARACTER OF THEM.

and it gets even more hilarious because why is it squarely ross and liz' job to repair their marriages. relationships always have two sides that are responsible, and yet the blame lies on them. what other reason would that be except their continued punishment for eternally loving each other. mind you this is the last of the canon story so this is AFTER ross' S2 finale speech, AFTER the S3 "I've changed" speech and yet we are STILL not supposed to come to a logical conclusion the whole time and then there's the S4 finale summary dragging it back up once again. i'm in tears bro

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thinking about them....rossliz x happiness

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one of the things that makes rossliz so unique is that usually, in cases like theirs ("trapped" with other people) the writing makes the partners "bad" enough to make the love interests tired of them or whatever but no! rose and liz actually care a LOT for their spouses (liz really is so strong to hold out for francis during his bencher era) and not only that, they respect each other for that with no discussions necessary since they understand each other that deeply because that doesn't remove the love they have for each other. of course, that doesn't make it any less hurtful for them (they're still human beings) but their almost instant acceptance of the other's feelings for their spouses really shows just how much they genuinely did love each other even if they couldn't be together. i'm also grateful we have this parallel which kinda plays canonically into what i'm saying.

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ross and elizabeth. i know right? ross and elizabeth. I KNOW RIGHT

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i don't think anyone has exactly grasped how INSANE it is that ross and elizabeth have a dedicated tarot card just for them called THE LOVERS. HELLOOOOOOOOOOO