hi, i hope you're doing well <3
i'm kind of new to this asking for advice thing, so i guess i just start?
um, so i am biologically a girl, and i feel like a girl, and i've always identified as one, but i WISH i was a boy if that makes sense. i'm just jealous of them i guess, and i almost want to be one, but i don't get body dysmorphia or anything, i just wish i had been born a boy. but i also don't think i am one, i am a girl. so i don't really understand what... that is.
also, someone used they/them pronouns for me the other day and i've always used she/her but it gave me such a rush. i loved it, like even thinking about it i feel like i just got a boost of serotonin! i probably would prefer using they them pronouns, but am i still allowed to do that if i identify as a girl? and this comes back to the gender thing, too... i wish i was a boy, but i'm not, and i feel comfortable in my own body most of the time - i don't want a gender reassigning surgery or anything. but the other day i got this bra which was kind of like a sports bra and since i have a small chest it basically served as a binder and i LOVED it. i loved the feeling. but sometimes i also wish i had a bigger chest. so i don't really understand it. i identify as a girl, and identifying as a boy or as nonbinary just doesn't feel right, but i still want to use neutral pronouns. but even though i wish i had been a boy, using he/him pronouns feels wrong, and she/her feels right... and they/them feels the most right but i don't feel nonbinary???
i'm just really confused. sorry if this doesn't make sense. no pressure if you can't help.
thanks for listening <3
Hi hon! <3
Okay so first of all- not saying you're trans, but not all trans people feel dysphoria or want surgery. It's not a requirement.
But as far as you go- Have you heard of the term demigirl? It's someone who identifies partially with a girl, but not wholly or not always. Check this out!
Also, no matter how you identify, you can use whatever pronouns you want. There are no pronoun police, and if there are, tell them to come to me, because I'll take their badges away <3
Naming you salsa anon!












