for the lesbian asks: 1 (and what it means to you), 4, 17 ๐๐
1) Femme or butch? (And what it means to you)
I'm femme! And to me that means that I first and foremost prioritize other women, especially GNC women (and nonbinary people who feel some form of connection to womanhood), in all parts of my life. As a femme I feel being a safe space especially for GNC women and nonbinary people is very important in how I comport myself, and how I relate to everyone I come in contact with. Being femme also means that I consider myself "feminine" and I perform femininity, but also that my femininity is interpreted/built around the desire to be attractive to myself and to other women - whether that aligns with mainstream feminity or not.
And for me being femme is also inextricably tied to my attraction to butches. I am femme because I want them to desire me, and to know that I desire them (so it's lots of flagging, one day I will own a crop top that says butch bait and I will never take it off).
Lazy/grungy ๐ usually I'm just in leggings and a Tshirt or oversize sweater. But when I'm feeling up to it I like to dress a little punk, a little goth, and a little like a preschool teacher. Poofy skirts, wide sleeves, and belts that highlight my waist are some of my favorites. I also tend to wear *a lot* of eyeliner, usually with big showy wings! And I spend an inordinate amount of money on my nails these days, a new design every 2-3 weeks ๐
17) If you could live anywhere in the world, where would you live?
Okay I had to really think about this one because I actually really love living in the PNW, it's the cost of living that makes me want to move ๐
so I'd either stay on the west coast but move to coastal Oregon, or if I was feeling adventurous move to Scotland or Ireland (and I could get an Irish Irish wolfhound then!)