1. When did your Narinder aquire the Red Crown? Was he born into the role or did the crown choose him for a particular reason?
Narinder ascended in a Holy War his family launched against the gods. He ascended third, after Shamura and Kallamar. His siblings helped him kill the previous Red Crown Bearer, Ala. At the time in he was in his early twenties, which is where his aging stalled.
When he died, Ala was a God of War and Tempests. The Red Crown had previously lost the power of Death. It was assumed Narinder would ascend as a God of War. He did, briefly. But the Red Crown seized the power of Death as Narinder’s primary domain. He willingly passed the power/domain of War to Shamura after being crowned.
Oddly, the domain of Tempests was lost in his ascension.
2. Why does the red crown find him worthy as a bearer?
{Spoilers redacted} It’s difficult to tell what the Red Crown thinks/feels, or if it does that at all. But it did reclaim the domain of Death thanks to Narinder. He also cheated death several times throughout his young life, often surviving situations that others did not. Perhaps it accepted him for those reasons. Perhaps killing Ala was all it took to become worthy; it’s not clear.
3. What did his childhood look like? Did he live with the other crown bearers?
Narinder’s early childhood was spent with his mother, Rajani, in a cat village. Rajani was a young unwed mother who was just barely able to support herself and her son. She loved him very much, though he was a quiet, strange child.
After a plague killed everyone but Narinder, Shamura and Kallamar came through and took Narinder with them when they left. His childhood was spent roaming from place to place with his adoptive siblings, often having to fight off bandits, cultists, slavers, etc. The family lived in near-constant fear. Hunger, illness, injury, and worse were frequent threats.
Eventually, Shamura came up with a plan. All they had to do was kill a god.
If you want to read a bit about Narinder’s childhood, I wrote about the Bishops’ mortal life in Sins of the Bishops.