So my mom is getting married soon. I'm making the wedding cake, about 75 cupcakes, sculpting the wedding cake topper, helping to decorate, taking all the photos, compiling the music and communicating to guests and family, so imagine a very tired voice saying "my mom is getting married soon". This marriage....I do not support it. I can't. If it were just that I didn't like the man she's marrying, then I could still support it, but there's more. She all but told me right out that she's marrying this man because she's just afraid to be alone any longer. My mom has been married twice before, she's still friendly with her second husband even (my dad). But she is terrified of being alone without a husband. So she's settling. I can't understand this. I cannot fathom settling into marriage with someone that I do not actually love and trust as my partner. That feels like a prison sentence to me. And yet, I know and see so many people form their entire lives around just finding someone who is good enough and getting married so you're not "alone". But why does not being married = being alone? Why are friends and family not good enough? Why aren't devoted children good enough? I understand being lonely. I feel lonely. But isn't it far more important to find a person who is a good fit for you? Someone who cares and treats you well and makes attempts to understand you, and you do the same for them? Why would you settle for less than actual love and partnership? I don't support this marfiage. I can't....but I do support my mother. She hasn't always been the best mom, but I'm not leaving her alone, not through her wedding, and not through anything after. Imagine a tired, monotone, and just a little bit sad voice saying, "so my mom is getting married soon...."
