So, in a situation in which both Spider and Kiri have been captured by the RDA and Quaritch proposes to use them both as guides in their search for Jake, how long do you think it would take for either him or someone else in the recom team to realize she is Grace's daughter, I don't think neither of them would say it willingly, specially if they know that Quaritch was the reason she died.
How do you think he would feel about it, specially seeing how close she and Spider are when they hated each other's guts when she was alive / he was still a human.
I think in a way, quaritch would realize it first even he didn't know it. he knows that face, that wit, that sharp tongue; kiri is so much like grace he would be put off by her in a way he didn't understand.
its the necklace that makes that makes him truly realize who the girl is. its the same ratty thing that grace had gotten from a group of na'vi kids all those years ago. now this kid who is worming her way into his skull and making him rethink everything he has ever and will ever know, is wearing it, and he hated how it all made sense. though he makes the realization he never tells anyone, though they all sorta 'know' like quaritch had, and she does eventually admit it.
by the time the realization is made and acknowledged, quaritch has had time to reflect and devolve on who he was, who the RDA wants him to be, and who he wants to be. he's becoming enough of his own person to regret what he did to grace, part of him hates it actually. being around her daughter, a daughter he doesn't fully understand how she exists, who never knew her mother because of him, it makes it all so much worse.
he doesn't know how to feel, what he's supposed to feel, what he's allowed to feel. he holds no ill will towards to her or her relationship to spider, but the more he sees of grace within kiri, the harder it is to be around her.
now our intuitive girl sees this, knows she's breaking him, knows he's made the connection as to who her mother is; she uses this. she knows what Eywa wills her to do and does it beautifully. she uses all of this information to the extreme, she plans on breaking every last bit of quaritch the RDA built, and bringing out every ounce of this new na'vi Miles.
this leads to an interesting dynamic, one not unwelcome, but not easy. its a path of change and healing, acknowledging things that may have been better left buried, its not fun by any right.
