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August Blog A Day: List Edition

15. 5 Things You Find Sexy

Flirting, of the clever banter and/or eyefucking variety

Being undressed

Backrubs/footrubs/massage

Boldness

Tenderness  (the last two combined, ideally)

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Congrats! You Found My Clitoris | I Heart Guts

Good job, you found it! Most of this wishbone-shaped structure is inside the body, hugging the base of the bladder and vagina. The teeny tiny tip of the clitoris emerges at the top of the vulva, underneath the clitoral hood. Fun zone!

I have a necklace pendant that’s a big silver clitoris, and although I feel sheepish about wearing it, I love this design.

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OCTOBER 17, 2016

“In conclusion, love is complicated. It requires time, energy, thoughtfulness, and commitment to survive. But mostly, it needs pizza. Lots and lots of pizza.” 

Thanks to @bbc03undercover for this article that explains a lot to me about myself.

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On Anonymity

The fact that the queries I often get about my relationship with D--the whole open/flexible/poly/whatever-the-fuck thing--come from people choosing to present as anonymous brings up a weird point.

Although I am less than perfectly discreet when I’m out with __, D is particularly concerned about secrecy. He’s very anxious that someone (who?) will approach him (with what?) and put him in an awkward situation. He seems incredibly concerned that somehow his family would find out that we both have outside relationships. (And then?) This is a bit complicated by the fact that his ladyfriend, C, lives in Chicago, not far at all from his family. He’s visiting her in July, and is having to be skulky about it.

I am of the “fuck it, don’t explain anything, it’s none of your business” school. People will talk, anyway. But I do know that my family--and most people of my acquaintance--would be far less shocked by the fact that ___ is a woman than by the whole non-monogamy thing.

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What do I want from Han?

He wants to know if I would like any, erm, pictures of him. 

Do I? I mean, I’m not opposed, but a photo doesn’t really do much for me, erotically speaking. I think he wants me to want a picture. I think he wants to be objectified in that way. 

(Related: I think D wants this, too, based on conversations we’ve had over the years. ...what must it be like to be a dude?)

So what should I tell him?

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Sexting is so dumb, y’all.

That doesn’t mean I’m not, y’know, into it, but the second I step back I just can’t believe I’m participating.

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I don’t do selfies.

I’ve tried, and on RARE occasions, I’ve posted pictures of a particular outfit when asking for your advice.

Now I am considering a different level of selfie. I think you know what sort I’m talking about.

[waits for you to get it]

Ahem. Anyway, I have no idea how to go about this project without spinning down into a body-dysmorphic hate spiral. I generally feel okay about my body, but seeing it on camera has never really helped me to feel better about it.

I am also not skilled in Photoshop, and my phone has a shitty camera.

Tips? Warnings?

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Seriously, tho.

I am currently looking through my FB feed and wondering if my various friends--mostly dude friends, but some ladyfriends, too--and acquaintances would like to get naked with me, and how might I pose that question to any one of them without coming off as a creeper.