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i have a weird fun shoulder injury that’s like...no sore, not triggered by anything I can specifically pinpoint, it just occasionally REALLY FUCKING HURTS, so thats a good time

still gonna go to body toning then krav maybe

#self created problems #its been like this since friday ish #and saturday i went to a BJJ class and that didn't hurt??#but then like..standing in the kitchen did #not a fan

Saw pics of my (45F) boyfriend's (49M) ex on his computer and can't get over it

My boyfriend (49M) and I have been together for about 4 months. He dated his ex-gf (47F) for about two years before I met him. They were very serious and had discussed marriage. He said they had a tumultuous last year of the relationship and were fighting constantly. She initiated the end but he said he can now see they really weren't right for each other. I have always struggled with comparing myself to my partners' exes but this time is is particularly bad given the recency of their relationship (they were only broken up for a few months before we met) and how serious they were. Also, while he has had limited relationship experience, he admitted that he tends to date petite, thin women, and I am very tall and more curvy. When we first started dating, a picture of her popped up on his phone. He apologized profusely and said he would delete the pictures of her on his phone. About a week ago, it happened again. This time, he seemed genuinely confused because he said that he had done a face search and deleted all the pictures of her but must have missed this one. Nonetheless, it sent me into a bit of a tailspin of comparing myself and our relationship to theirs. A few nights ago, he left his laptop open and I went snooping. I found a file of pictures of her, many of which I could tell he had taken (like not selfies). I was surprised because he has told me he is bad about remembering to document experiences and has taken very few pictures of me/us since we got together. I feel bad about snooping and I know that a 2 year relationship will obviously produce more pictures than a 3 month relationship. But I can't shake the feeling that: 1) he knew that deleting the pics would not delete them from his computer such that it feels a little deceptive and like he wants to keep them and 2) the volume of pictures of her makes me feel like he was more attracted to her/motivated to document their relationship than ours. I know a simple solution would be just to ask him to take more pictures of us but I want him to feel motivated to do it. I also can't bring it up without admitting that I was snooping. Am I blowing this out of proportion?

You will always be able to create problems when you go deliberately searching for them.

#self created problems #ThrowRANo-Inevitable

The downside of getting rid of a lot of addictive apps and nuisance subscription emails from your email box is you will open up your phone like 12 times in 10 minutes because you’re bored and there’s nothing to do and so you’ll keep on opening up your phone hoping you missed some thing but it’s just the same crap you’ve looked at five times now. 🍆 Like no I don’t want the USA today app trying to share that article from eight days ago about yogurt influencers on TikTok and what they have to say; or that one post from 20 minutes ago on my Tumblr feed because I got rid of a lot of posters that I didn’t like and now I don’t have anything on my feed. And it’s like I know I could read that Grady Hendrix short story, but I don’t wanna read Grady Hendrix.

#self created problems #require self created solutions I guess #I guess I’ll just do my fajr prayer