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[adiyo]

Self-Esteem vs. Self-Compassion: The Real MVP of Self-Worth

Ever notice how often we’re told to “believe in ourselves,” to “boost self-esteem,” or to “be confident”? And yet, it doesn’t always seem to be enough. One day we’re on top of the world, and the next, we’re feeling like we’ve got it all wrong. It’s exhausting, right? That’s where self-compassion comes in—like self-esteem’s more reliable, supportive sibling.

Self-esteem says, “You’re great, but only if you’re doing things well.” It’s like a rollercoaster, up one day and down the next, constantly needing outside validation. But self-compassion says, “You’re worthy no matter what.” Even when we mess up, fall short, or feel lost. It’s not about how good we are compared to anyone else; it’s about recognizing that everyone’s a work in progress, and we’re no different.

Self-compassion gives us room to be imperfect. It lets us be gentle with ourselves when we’d usually be our own worst critics. It’s not about lowering our standards but about knowing we’re okay even when we fall short. We don’t have to have it all figured out, and that’s more than okay.

Imagine treating yourself with the same kindness you’d show a close friend when they’re down—offering patience, forgiveness, and encouragement. Self-compassion is like that: the thing that holds you steady even when self-esteem falters.

Next time you’re hard on yourself, remember: it’s okay to want to do well, but it’s even more important to be kind to yourself along the way. 🌱