#selfshipping problems

[kay-selfships]

you can selfship with that popular character when you get jealous easily but watch out

[deepestuniversallove]

F*CK, I have picked up Okami for the switch and am mesmerized by Waka after having had two battles with him. He is so pretty and flamboyant and ....i don't wanna fall for him! Please help me to NOT make Waka another F/O!!

[kay-selfships]

when you finally go through the trenches of your f/o’s tag and like all of the posts are mostly about some character associated with your f/o instead of your f/o

[kay-selfships]

moodboard: you try so hard to block the names of ships with your f/os but the ship keeps showing up on your dash bc people either don’t actually tag the ship or tag it with some more obscure name for the ship

[deepestuniversallove]

How do I stop being angsty in my selfshipping?

I dunno why I have this inner drive for going for sadness and angst in general with my stories. I feel the compulsion, almost need, to end my stories with the Death of my Self-insert. Or that it somehow doesn’t work out with my F/O, maybe by them moving on from me to a better partner.

Like in the case with Lotor, I often slip into angsty territory - I wanna write/draw how my S/I sacrifices herself for his sake, how she rescues him from the Quintessence Rift, gets him out, but she herself dies in the aftermath of it.

And I recognize that this need for a bad end for my self-inserts is an effect of my abusive upbringing - the belief that I do not deserve happiness and that if I reach for it, it will only be temporary - and come with a heavy cost to pay if I dare to even enjoy a second too much of it.

I am genuinely amazed at any selfshipper who can focus more on the happy and fluffy scenarios with their F/O. It is something that is really hard for me to focus on. Just living together happily with your F/O? Having a simple domestic life? Laughing together, snuggling with your F/O and just enjoy being a couple? Now THAT still sounds so far out there for me. My mind always goes “No way in hell will this last very long. Something catastrophic will happen to tear them apart!” 

All those fluffy scenarios with F/Os that sometimes pop up on my dashboard sound like impossible fairytales to me.

[rosepetalmoon]

Another day, another self indulgent doodle of me kissing my F/O that I know I’m not gonna have the confidence to share but I’m gonna kid myself the entire time I’m drawing anyway~ ᕕ( ᐛ )ᕗ💕

[rosepetalmoon]

Selfshippers, help!

I’m the kind of person who loves celebrating birthdays. But what do you do when your F/O doesn’t have a canonical birthday? I’m happy to choose one myself as a headcanon, but I want it to be a meaningful date and not some random selection from the calendar. Has anyone been in a similar situation? I’d love some ideas for how I can choose a birthday for my F/O 🎂

[veve-the-cat]

Videogame f/os~ ✨

The best part about having a playable videogame character/protagonist as your f/o is that you get to share adventures and emotions, you get to feel what they feel and join them in their missions.

The WORST PART however comes when you're so stuck at a part and you only die and die and die and- JAJSJSJAJJSJA LIKE. I'll be playing Super Metroid and I'll get stuck and see Samus' death animation over and over. The guilt bro.