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[skinnyproblems]

It's sad how you learn to feel guilty about your body when you're a skinny person. People give you the feeling you're making them feel bad about themselves just by being there. That compliment of "I wished I looked like you" is nothing to be proud of because it implies I make you unhappy with your body and it's my fault because of the way my body looks. I'm not allowed to have any insecurities and opinions, and I can't be proud of my body either, so I just keep saying I'm sorry for my body.

So perfectly put. Exactly. Many of these compliments aren’t really compliments, or taken as compliments.

[skinnyproblems]

If you are someone who doesn't believe in skinny shaming then think about boys. Boys get made fun of all the time for not being "buff" enough (especially thin athletes) and get told that no girls will find them attractive, or that they are not "manly enough". If you haven't witnessed a girl being skinny shamed then you have definitely heard at least once a group of guys making fun of how "weak" and "girlish" a guy looks because he's thin.

Exactly. People cannot act like they have never witnessed skinny shaming throughout their young lives.

[skinnyproblems]

Newsflash: if you say things like: -"you're flatter than a surfboard" -"you look anorexic" -"boys like bigger girls because they're prettier" to your friends, you're skinny shaming them. And yes, you can be skinny and be body shamed. So for whatever reason behind it, never say these things, not even as a joke.

dear friends,

[skinnyproblems]

Doesnt it bother you when people start obsessing over your body? For example when they say stuff like "omg you're so skinny I wanna be like you!" "I bet you eat whatever you want!" Like they put you in a pedestal over absolutely nothing?? It happens to me all the time and it makes me so uncomfortable....

It makes me feel uncomfortable too. I always feel like it isn’t genuine.

[skinnyproblems]

the shitty and hurtful comments people say to models concerning their bodies. So even if I did have a "model's" exact body, there would still be a bunch of people tearing it down. Yep that definitely makes me feel better. I'll just look in a magazine and remind myself of all the awful comments people have said about models' bodies.

[skinnyproblems]

People don't realize how mean comments can build up. I've had fat women take jabs about my body because they assume I never get shame for it, so making a jab at me once is 'acceptable'. But one day I got four 'skinny bitch' insults from different people, and it just wore me down. Everyone says one skinny bitch insult won't matter, but they don't take into account that other people are thinking the same thing.

[skinnyproblems]

When I went on depression medication a few years ago I gained a lot of weight (30+ lbs) really quickly and no one said anything. When I went off the meds, I lost all the weight I gained plus some and people keep telling me I'm too skinny. I'm much happier now, no longer need medication and feel better (both mentally and physically) than I have for years. I just wish people would stop making negative comments about my weight loss :(

Your body is your private space and it’s nobody’s business. Treat it like your home and don’t let anyone invade with their negativity. Stand up for it. Protect it. Be happy with it.

[skinnyproblems]

I'm a bigger girl but your blog is wonderful! I hate when people make fun of me (I'm working on getting healthy). I know what it's like to be body shamed and nobody needs that. I hate when people say models should eat more or when they tell my friends that they need some meat on their bones. People don't seem to think that they have problems just because they're thin and so that somehow makes it okay to comment negatively on their body. So thank you for promoting body positivity on your blog :)

“People don’t seem to think that they have problems just because they’re thin and so that somehow makes it okay to comment negatively on their body.”

So true. Perfectionist ideals is so messed up. The media projection of our skin and bodies is ruining our reality. Even the celebrity bodies you’ll see in the magazine have been altered somehow.

Thank you so much for seeing the issues!