You don’t need a Reason!
Today, I wanna talk about something that’s been triggering my nerves for years! And many of you probably relate. I’m talking about every family gathering, every lie, and every excuse.. just to make them understand that I don’t wanna birth my own children.
It’s been a constant discussion, and every time I try a new excuse to see if that will make them stop, but it’s doesn’t.
“I’m too selfish to have a baby”, which is a valid reason, but it’s always excused with “you’ll change when you become a mother.”
“I’ve autism, and can barely spend an hour in the same room as my little brother.”
“I wouldn’t want to bring children into this world.”
“Giving birth scares me.”
“My lifestyle is not suitable for children.”
“I’m barely learning how to take care of myself.”
“I’ve a strong fear of passing down mental health issues.”
“I’ve a visual impairment, and even though there’s a process in which you can nearly eliminate the chances of your child inheriting this disability, that process is very long and hard.”
And this isn’t even half of the excuses, I’ve even felt forced to use my sexuality or disability as a reason to not have children.. but one thing I’ve realized is that no matter which of these “excuses” I use, they always reply the same way “you’re too young.” Well, I wasn’t too young for you to assume I wanted children. Why does it feel like I owe the world children? Or owe my family children?
I’ve come to the conclusion that I don’t wanna come up with excuses or reasons (whatever word you wanna use) to justify not having children. I just don’t want it, and that should be enough for the world and the people around you if they respect and care for you.
