Recently, I agreed to go on a (second) date, and he suggested taking me to a certain art museum. I really enjoy art museums, and I hadn’t been to this one in a number of years, so I was excited to go. But when we were there, I noticed that with him leading the way that we were just walking through the rooms or down the aisles without stopping to look at anything. Eventually, I started just stopping on my own to look at certain pieces which caught my eye, which forced him to stop as well. Even the couple times I mentioned, “Oh, this kind of stuff really interests me,” we just zoomed right on by. This might have been fine if we were actually able to keep up good conversations, but that wasn’t the case, and we weren’t at a point in knowing each other where the pauses weren’t awkward yet. It just seemed a waste to go to a museum if we weren’t going to really look at the exhibits; we might as well just have gone to the nearby park. It was upsetting to me, and a bit of a let down, and I’ll be honest that it put a damper on my mood for the rest of the date once I realized.
During the course of our date, he admitted to me that he wasn’t very interested in art museums. But if that’s the case, then why suggest it? For my account? Then you should follow through and let me enjoy myself. Why not suggest a neutral place, or at least an activity that we both enjoy? It would be a good way for us to understand our common interests instead of highlighting our differences.
I think that whoever I eventually end up in a relationship with will be the type of person who appreciates his surroundings, especially if he’s surrounded by art.