#shodu

[smolcatte]

“Just because I am blind, does not mean I am helpless.”

[ewoksnotdiscourse]

The discourse isn’t about whether or not we should open the community to a-specs. It’s too late for that. You’re already here, already included, and already belong.

Some people may not like that, but that doesn’t change the practical reality we all live in.

[ewoksnotdiscourse]

New Years is coming up and I, for one, am looking forward to another great year of a-specs being in the LGBT+, Queer, and MOGAI communities.

[ewoksnotdiscourse]

You decide whether or not you’re LGBT+.

You decide whether or not you’re Queer.

You decide whether or not you’re MOGAI.

To apply any of these to you, without your consent, is morally dubious, ethically wrong, and cladistically incorrect.

[ewoksnotdiscourse]

You deserve a partner who understands and respects your needs, whether that means anything from holding hands to having sex, from frequently to total abstinence.

If you and your partner aren’t compatible, it’s not a failure for you to break up. Relationships are for the people who make them up. If it doesn’t work, it doesn’t work.

[ewoksnotdiscourse]

It’s only a matter of time until the gatekeeping shifts to another target. I’m not saying that as a sort of “soon it won’t be our problem” kind of thing. Rather, it’s my hope that we’ll all learn from this, and resolve to stand with the next targets, and the next, and the next.

Gatekeeping the community harms marginalized people, and it harms the community as a whole.