on the topic of Miston’s family and dating
It makes total sense to me that Nethel’s type is ‘warrior.’ Here, let me explain what I mean: Warriors (in my headcanon, at least) in Imladris specifically are mostly trained to defuse dangerous situations. They know how to fight, yes, but it is a last minute resort. However, they train vigorously to keep their body in good shape, because as a warrior your body needs to be as much of a weapon as your longswords and whatmore. In comes Nethel, who gets weak in the knees for guys with muscles anyway, but who is also practically a danger to herself and others considering her anger issues and that she works with glass and pottery and fire and so on. She needs someone to defuse the dangerous situations she gets herself in, and she needs someone who can stop her from hurting someone else without physically harming her. A warrior in that case makes the most sense. So why does she fancy lacrimosa-magnolia’s Kaziel, out of all warriors? To really understand that I’m going to compare him to the other “add-ons” in the family only counting those who have relationships with Nethel’s siblings, so that would be Eredhon (Malgelir’s husband) and Lagoron (Amathel’s fiancee). (I ship Miston with a variety of people so I’ll leave him out of this for once) footnote: just because most of the sisters date guys doesn’t mean this family is full of heterosexuals. Malgelir is demisexual, Rhoscthel pan, Amathel is straight, Innith is aro ace, Nethel is the only one I’m not quite sure on (maybe bi? or pan? or if neither of those then she might be demi or grey-ace.), and Miston is a homoromantic ace. Yes, I definitely do feel like I could use a gay woman among this family in general :| I’m working on it. Anyhow, while Eredhon, Lagoron and Kaziel can pretty much provide the girls with a sense of peace because their homelife is quite chaotic considering you have a total of 8 (well, 7, since Miston left) people constantly on each other’s lips since most live in the same house (and Malgelir lives close by her parents), they’re not interchangable. Eredhon can deal with neither Amathel nor Nethel, because his romantic personality isn’t compatible with Amathel’s clean cut logic approach to life nor Nethel’s constant arguing that comes from her own unhappiness. Lagoron’s “low-maintenace” type of personality would make Malgelir feel really uncomfortable since she needs more emotional feedback from her spouse than he can offer, and with how laid-back he is Nethel would be able to walk all over him and I feel like putting them together would lead to a really toxic relationship with him mainly as the victim because he doesn’t have what it takes to calm her irratic self down, unlike calming Amathel down who can listen to his words with logic reasoning. And Kaziel? Kaziel is too young for Malgelir to see him as anything but a little brother, and Amathel sees him as a purely work-related kind of friend. Neither of Nethel’s older sisters would treat him as an equal, but that leaves Nethel’s anger issues to deal with. In dutch there is a saying that translated literally means something like “she’s not a cat you can handle without gloves.” or more liberally translated: “she should come with a warning sign: handle with care”, and it pretty much applies to Nethel. Miston is bad when it comes to arguing with those he loves, but Nethel is worse. So how can Kaziel deal with that? Simple: the same way he deals with her brother. Kaziel has this uncanny ability to reach through to Miston and stop his mind from spiraling out of control by Kaziel’s sheer personality and ludacris ideas, and you know what? It works the same for Nethel. With just his personality he can make both of these elves stop dead in their track and “buffer” for a moment in a matter of “wait, what?” and that leads back to him as a warrior defusing a dangerous situation. Yes, Nethel is the kind of person you should handle with care for your own safety. And I think Kaziel has the right equipment (ie: heavy leather gloves) to do so.