Sometimes, life will throw you melons…or even bricks. It will carry you up and throw you down and at other times you might even feel like you’re drowning in an ocean of insecurities and hate. There will be times when you can trust nobody and times when all you want to do is cry in bed all night or just give up on everything in general. And in those times, giving up may seem like the easiest thing to do. You will probably have your heart broken a couple of times and there may be times when you will feel completely invisible to the world around you. And in those times, you might feel like you don’t have a purpose any longer. But just hold on.
The wonderful thing about life is that it also has its lovely moments of surprising us. There will be days when you’re so happy that you feel like you could burst! There will be times when you feel so special and so loved by someone that you have to pinch yourself a gazillion times just to be sure it’s real. There will be moments when life throws you promotions and introduces you to all the right people in all the right ways. You will see things and come to know things for their beauty and you will experience all this in a very real way and it will feel wonderful!
But let me tell you this, no matter how sad you are, or how happy you are, never ever give anybody a reason to disrespect you. People will always say what they want to say and there will always be those who try to destroy you even when you might feel invincible. But NEVER EVER allow anybody to make you feel small. I know that you will have times when you question yourself and our brains have a horrible way of being able to make us think the worst of ourselves. It’s amazing how much we can hurt our hearts just by the things we allow ourselves to think about.
There are no two things more beautiful about a person than self-respect and confidence. Always leave room in that big heart of yours to allow people who love you to enter but also harden your soft heart enough to be able to push those who hurt you out of your life. It will always be hard at first and there will be times when you’re just not in the mood for conflict. In those times, just remind yourself of how you deserve love and if the people around you cannot give you that, they don’t deserve to be around somebody as beautiful as you.
If you are not willing to respect yourself, you cannot expect anybody else to respect you either. The way you treat yourself is the way the world will treat you and if you allow yourself to see the worst that is in you, then that is exactly what the world will see you as – the worst version of yourself. I cannot agree more when they say that the eyes are a mirror to the soul, because if you cannot see yourself for the beauty that you are made up of, then nobody can because your eyes will always reflect what you think of yourself. Do not allow people to trample over you because that is exactly what many people will try to do and once you give them even a tiny amount of room to give you grief, they will grab the opportunity to hurt you. In situations like those, always stand up for yourself and for others. Never be afraid to take a stand for what you believe in, because what you believe in is what makes you who you are. To allow somebody to criticize you for behaving or thinking differently is the same as allowing them to tell you that you are not significant.
There is nothing further from the truth than believing that you’re not significant. If every grain of sand were to think that it was useless, we would probably never have such beautiful beaches. Of course at times you may feel as small as a grain of sand, but always know that you play a very important role in a much bigger picture – a much more beautiful picture that would not be the same without you in it. Never allow anybody to try to change you. As soon as you feel like somebody is trying to make you who you are not, run the other direction because people who truly love you will accept you for who you are- the rest only want to see reflections of themselves. However, always be open to constructive criticism even if it may sometimes hurt because there will always be place for you to improve. We are imperfect beings created by a perfect God and so we will always have areas in which we can be better. Always respect others in the same way that you wish to be respected.
Never make excuses for anything. Always own up to doing wrong and always grab opportunities. You never know when they may come around again. Never give yourself any excuse to not follow your dreams. Your goals and ambitions are just as important as anybody else’s and so never allow yourself to think up of reasons for why you should not give your best shot at getting something you love. There will be times when doors are slammed in your face but that’s only because much better things are in store for you. There will also be times when doors swing open just as easily as the ones the shut and in those times, never allow yourself to become too proud and instead always give God credit. Never settle for lesser than what you deserve. Give your 100% in everything you do. This might sometimes mean pushing yourself past your breaking point but the results will be so worth it!
Lastly, never ever give up on believing. Believe in God, believe in Love, believe in Beauty and believe in the Best of what you see in others. You never know how many people you can really bless by just believing in them. Never lose the opportunity to smile at someone. In fact, always find a reason to smile…even if it’s just once a day. Most of all, believe in yourself and nothing will be able to stop you.
