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Ladies take the advice and be as delulu as you want. You will never go wrong with betting on yourself and having blind confidence. When you sell yourself short the only people that benefit from it are others, and you’re the only one that suffers. So bet on yourself, aim for your wildest dreams and don’t ever let people tell you that your dreams are unattainable.
You know that feeling when you watch a movie that strikes a chord in you, with scenes that you never quite forget? Like the confrontation scene in the Notebook, after all the suspense and build-up of many many years of pent up passion and heartache? Or the classic Titanic scene where she lets go of him but carries his memory in her heart always? Those kinds of moments?
Sometimes when I’m fully committed to other projects and have to put writing on the backburner, I will have such moments where a certain scene I previously wrote comes to mind, nagging at the back of my head, stuck like a broken record until I open up the manuscript again and finally reread that fragment, and then I’m sucked into the vortex of that fantasy world because I wanna know what happens next (even though I WROTE it so I know but that’s not the point) and see how the characters found family is going to overcome this and that new thing - and then I start writing again.
A writer’s mind works in clever, sneaky ways to break a writer’s block indeed.
I don't care about your origins, your skincolor, sexual orientation or the scars in your heart. If you come in peace, you will always be welcome in the land of the free.
about Xandrias, the Academy of Magic & Mysteries; Arcanum of Thorns (c) S.K. Lumen
My latest glow up habits
🎀 Physical 🎀
fixing my sleep schedule, from a 2 am nightowl to going to sleep at 10-11 pm
limiting time on social media, from 2h daily to 1h per week, to avoid wasted time and doomscrolling
improving diet by mealprepping, having regular meals & avoiding unhealthy foods
weekly hair treatments with rosemary
🎀 Mental 🎀
reading a new book every few weeks
starting a new course for professional development
reading interesting articles daily to keep myself mentally stimulated (and avoid reaching for an instagram dopamine kick)
🎀 Emotional 🎀
shadow work + journaling
setting stronger boundaries when i'm feeling burnt out
removing habits, locations or people from my life that are toxic or draining
no longer mulling over the past, simply closing the door and moving on
🎀 Spirituality 🎀
gratitude journaling
subliminals right before sleep
creating a new visionboard for the upcoming year
Reminder that you don't need to get people's approval to go for something. All you need is ownership over your choices.
Want to go on a weekend spa solo and you have the finances for it? Go for it, you don't need your friends' approval to validate your decisions. Want to get a dog because you've always wanted one? Just do it, you don't need your family's approval to make a decision as an adult. Want to reconnect with an old friend or travel to another country? Just do it. Always had dreams of becoming an influencer? Just start posting fancy stories on social media.
Understand that this is your life, and you can do as you please without someone confirming you're allowed to do it. The only person who needs to agree is you.
Actually all of life does get better in your 30s contrary to what the media wants you to believe. You gain more experience, you discover what you like and don't like. Your standards raise high and you learn how to actually keep them. Your boundaries become crystal clear and you learn how to assertively uphold them. Your confidence grows as you see that everybody is ultimately completely preoccupied with their own human experience on this floating earth and it really doesn't matter how you dress or what you do in the grand scheme of things. You realize peopleplasing and chasing others is meaningless, miserable and futile and nothing comes of it. That you should just go ahead and wear whatever you want and do whatever you want and let yourself feel that ounce of joy and fulfillment because people are gonna judge anyway no matter what you do or how many hoops you jump over to please them. Literally just. Things get better. Because you finally relax into the space you take up in the world instead of trying to disappear from it.
You realize how much something is meant for you by the way it makes you feel. That guy you're dating, is he leaving you anxious and confused, or do you feel uplifted and safe? The job you have, does it make you feel miserable, or do you feel excited every day to collaborate with interesting people on interesting projects? That trip you booked, do you feel anxiety and uncertainty, or do you feel peace and exhiliration? The energetic blueprint of each thing is a hint on whether it's leading you to your higher self or straying you from it.
When you invite a guest into your home, you make sure everything is tidy and welcoming. The same applies to your life. If you want to invite blessings into your life, you have to get rid of the clutter and what does not serve you.
