marmolita replied to your post “I know that 25 is a bit early to be wanting to be “settled...”
25 is not too early to want to be settled! It's only recently that it's become the norm to settle down later.
Thanks for that -- you make a good point. I think I'm just really used to hear people say that being young is for moving around and doing crazy things and applauding me for leaving the country and so I feel odd saying that I just want to build a home in one city. But I think it's possible for me to be an explorer without moving so often, which is ultimately the problem I'm having. 25 may be young to be "settled down" but for me it's getting to be too old for moving to a different city every year or so.
skadoo3 replied to your post “I know that 25 is a bit early to be wanting to be “settled...”
And that's OK! At least you have an idea of what you might want even when it's uncertain and maybe even scary. I spent a large chunk of my life afraid to make choices. Good luck!
Yeah, if there's an upside to this year it's that, even though I had to give up all that stuff I had in Chicago, now I know for sure that I don't want to be in academia and that I really do value having a place where I feel like I can develop my own nest and routines. So that's made any future decisions about career stuff relatively easy. But it always takes me forever to make decisions, and I'm not sure that will go away entirely -- for instance, I'm still unsure as to where I want to live after I get back. I will probably let my employment circumstances make that choice for me, but I'm a bit terrified of getting that wrong.
andtwohardboiledeggs replied to your post “I know that 25 is a bit early to be wanting to be “settled...”
I hear Minneapolis is a great place to settle down. You should probably move here. We have lots of great things here. Arts, sports, festivals, Allie, fairs, lakes, Allie... :P
Oh really? Is Minneapolis a nice place? I've never hear anything about that... Places featuring Allie do sound rather nice, despite being terrifyingly cold a lot of the time.
marmolita replied to your post “Ho boy is being at home having a bad effect on my mental...”
Sorry you are having a tough time!
Thanks. Your continued sympathy on stuff with my mom helps a lot.