I hope I didn't miss something in your resources, but I didn't see anything- Do you have any tips for a non-bird owner on meeting a parrot for the first time? I'm going to meet my friend's African Grey this week, and I really want to make sure I do everything right and don't scare/upset him. I've never interacted with a parrot before, so I'm anxious! How would you want someone new to behave when meeting one of your birds? Thank you for your wonderful blog, I've learned so much from it already!
The number one rule would be to just listen to your friend, they know their bird best and as a result they will be able to tell you to stop doing what you’re doing or help guide you on how to best read the bird. Don’t be afraid to ask questions, if you want a debriefing prior to interacting with the bird please ask, it’s much better to take the time to explain the basics about the bird as an individual than it is for you to be nervous or uncertain and someone getting hurt, most bird owners will be more than happy to help show you the ropes.
In general here’s a few guidelines:
don’t approach them first, let the bird hang out with their owner or across the room and let the bird get a good look at you, they have to decide whether or not you’re a threat before willingly interacting with you. You may want to ask for some treats after a little while and gently try offering them to the bird, if the bird is comfortable you could ask them to step up or do a trick, whatever the owner advises, if the bird backs away or bends down, just leave them be, don’t force it. The owner may decide to do basic tricks or hands-off activities such as target training or simple distant commands so the bird can start to interact with you without you being close enough to get bitten.
don’t hover over them, try to stay around eye level until they’re comfortable, give or take
slow movements, keep things predictable
plenty of rewards to help them associate you with positivity
keep the area relatively quiet and calm
offer your hand to them, don’t force it in to them, let them decide whether or not to step up, think of step up as a question rather than a command “would you like to step up?” if the bird says no then that’s their answer, respect that choice
watch their body language and only proceed when they’re willing to comply, if they’re eye pinning (expanding and contracting pupils), leaning down, swaying, flaring their tail, pacing, those are signs of an unhappy bird telling you they don’t like what you’re doing. Again listen to the owner, if they tell you the bird doesn’t like that then ease off
Some birds are really well socialized and may be just fine walking up to a new person and having fun, others may not be, it’s important to take each bird as an individual and proceed according to what they’re telling you. Talk with their owner, get them to explain things to you if you need it and listen to what they have to say. As long as you proceed slowly and back off if the bird starts wanting to leave the situation it’ll likely be just fine.