people will literally see certain posts talking about how being a bad person doesn't mean you aren't redeemable and that you can still change and will immediately assume it's abuse apologism. you can make a post saying "abusive does not mean the same as irredeemable. there's still a chance to redeem yourself and reevaluate your wrongs and fix them. if you were abusive in the past, don't expect others to forgive you, try to forgive yourself".
and people will respond "so we shouldn't hold abusers and rapists accountable? so we HAVE to forgive our abusers no matter what???" like... no? that's not what we're saying? that's an entirely different sentence. congrats. you missed the entire fucking point.
--a fed up individual who has survived abuse in the past