SPFPP 293: An Intro to Selfed - Prioritize the Needs of the Spirit
When we prioritize the needs of the spirit, the body seems to care for itself. 35 year old Erika was diagnosed with herpes during pregnancy of her first born of her five children. This was originally going to be on my other podcast, Selfed, but herpes was a big part of this conversation unexpectedly. Erika’s youngest makes an appearance throughout. I felt this conversation was more important to have than to wait until her son maybe went to bed. As mentioned, she’s a full time working single mom, so there will be some background noise. There’s a trigger warning given for this episode in reference to abuse. We talk about a lot of real shit about men and women, abuse and bystanders, government assistance, prioritizing your mental health, and miracles and intuition. We even touch a little on relationships. You get a heavy dose of the realness here in this episode and I appreciate your willingness to come on this long ride. If you like this then you’ll like Selfed, the podcast.
Anyone curious about parenting, Erika listed some resources useful for us.
Episode Resources:
https://www.eviemagazine.com/post/this-doctor-wants-you-consider-racist-origins-birth-control-pill
Dr. Jolene Brighton touches on the history of birth control in this article and I think this is a food place to start for someone who’s interested in how we got to where we are with birth control. She also has written great books and articles on the importance of hormonal balance and has a whole practice dedicated to this.
Taking Charge of Your Fertility- this is a book that discusses the female reproductive system and the health benefits we can get from observations of our physical body and how it communicates with us not just on reproduction but tracking our fertility and watching the patterns can also help us with other areas of our health
Instagram accounts that help with these and birth in general:
ebbirth
drjolenebrighton
decolonisingcontraception
tallersalud
dr.avivaromm
famtasticfertility
fertilitycharting
A note from the guest:
First, thanks to my sister. She is my official “coparent “and the real MVP. That goes to my moms as well, I love you all. Second, I’m not sure what happened to me since our talk, but I feel like new pathways have opened up in my brain. So, instead of sitting here, feeling guilty about the men I can’t even publicly name to thank… this shift has inspired me to take a new look at how I relate to men in my life and the role they play in my family’s life. So I am actively engaging in new ways to introduce and maintain positive male figures around me and my kids in order to create a new narrative around what male relationships should and should not look like (and so it’s not always linked to a romantic relationship). So my thanks is to you, thank you for opening up this conversation for me and my household.