Venus square Mars in Synastry
Synastry is what brings two people together, it is how two separate people act in a relationship toward each other (the composite is a combination of both people that shows up in a developed relationship). Venus is the ruler of our love nature, but also our finances, material possessions, grace, creativity to some extent, what we find beautiful, and charm. Mars is the ruler of our energy; our actions/desires, our willpower, but also our sexual energies, passions, and anger/aggression.
When one person’s Venus touches the other person’s Mars (or there’s a double whammy) there will be an instant attraction, and it’s one of the best indicators that there will be sexual chemistry between you two. A square indicates conflict, suppression, and a battle. Both planets radically disagree with each other. This plays out very differently depending on the energy of the two signs involved. However, a great example of how Venus square Mars could play out is Kat and Patrick in 10 Things I Hate About You.
The Mars person will often be aggressive, dominant, or the leader. The relationship is full of a push and pull dynamic; with the Mars person doing the pushing. There is a strong attraction indicated, and the sex may feel very encompassing. However, the Venus person may feel like a “conquest” by the Mars person, and often be confused on why they are SO attracted to the Mars person. You two can rub each other the wrong way many times. The Mars person can sometimes scare or repulse the Venus person, and sometimes indicate a sexist 50-60′s dynamic in sexual situations. However, the energy of the Mars person is strong, and it pulls the Venus person in, making them enjoy things they normally wouldn’t. The sex is incredibly primal, and the intense attraction is also based on primal instincts.
This is an incredibly passionate synastry aspect, and if not dealt with carefully, can easily turn into a Love-Hate relationship. One minute you’ll be at each other’s throats, then next having sex all night. It can even indicate a bit of competitiveness, heavy arguments, and a rivalry. It can be very unhealthy, but communication helps tremendously, so be honest with each other, always. Maturity is required for this, and it does help if one person has this aspect in their Natal (they have a deeper understanding of this nature and can handle it better than someone with no previous knowledge).