squeeneytodd replied to your post “squeeneytodd replied to your post “Thinking about Jon and Martin,...”
the wild thing is jon is the one who ended up throwing out the "i need you"/"i miss you"s, directly to martin's face, while martin ends s4 with at most "be safe", on a /tape/
while martin mainly is like "hey you want some tea" "anyway im not gonna let you Die Again" /self-isolates/
HMM YEP AND THAT’S JUST PERFECT HONESTLY. Jon was the one who was grumpy and hostile at the start while Martin was just trying to Be Fucking Nice, then Jon was the one who pushed everyone away while Martin desperately tried to hold everyone together. So it’s so much more satisfying to see Jon be blatant and honest about how much he cares, specifically to Martin.
Over three seasons, Jon finally learned he needs people. Not just needs them to be okay and exist in some vague, distant way but actually needs them around him, both to keep him steady and stable and because it’s an emotional necessity.
Martin seemed to believe he needed people from the beginning, but a lot of his behavior trying to connect with them or even help them connect with each other resulted in him being pushed away, sometimes really harshly. In a way, he ended up learning the opposite lesson - that he can’t connect with people. He can try to take care of them and try to keep them safe and have them in that vague, distant way, but not the way that matters. (And naturally Peter swoops in like sup, I see you’ve done half the work for me already.)
There’s about a dozen different things going on in that “let’s gouge our eyes out together” conversation, and there are a lot of reasons Martin doesn’t believe Jon is serious. But I think one of them is that Martin hears Jon say that he trusts him and wants to leave with him, he can sense the intense emotions behind Jon’s words, (especially when he says ‘together,’) and goes “hmm sounds fake.”
Which is why it’s so good and important for Jon to be the one to say things like “I miss you/I need you/I came here for you” and for Martin to be the one to hear them!!
