One major difference that I'm noticing between the asexual and aromantic communities is that ace people often talk about ace-ness in terms of (lack of) attraction. Ace people will talk about not experiencing sexual feelings or crushes and such. Discussion of the act of sex and whether one is favourable or averse/repulsed is treated as a separate topic from the core notion of attraction.
In aro communities, however, I've noticed there's a lot more discussion that focuses around repulsion. I've seen a lot of people describe their aromamticism as "I don't want romance" - as being averse or repulsed by romantic acts, or by the societal expectations around what romantic relationships should be. Frequently in discussions, the lack of romantic feelings/attraction takes a back seat.
I feel like there's something interesting about that distinction. Maybe it's just a surface level thing (e.g. broader societal discussions around sex are focused on attraction while discussions around romance are focused on obligation and romantic acts) but I wonder if there's something deeper to it?
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