i feel like something you guys are missing is that carmen literally eats like shit.
yes, he's a chef and is very particular over the food he creates, but the last thing he would do is judge his partner for their eating habits. especially if they "can't cook" !! he literally lives off of samples of the restaurants dishes, Doritos, and PB&J sandwiches.
food is his form of love and connection with those around him. so yes, he would prefer to make you some real but simple food, like a pasta dish, than have you eat snacks and call it a meal. but he wouldn't judge you.
the most he would do to try and interject (both showing his affection and just wanting someone he cares about to eat nutritiously) is ask his partner "you got any ideas for dinner? i was thinking..." and insert a bunch of options to mask his concern. carmen does not have the fucking emotional capacity to JUDGE his PARTNER over their eating habits and develop some kind of savior complex !! he's not a fucking health coach
another thing we need to consider is that carmen would probably ask his partner throughout the day if they were hungry and would like carmen to whip something up for them. it's very unlikely that his partner would have to or even want to resort to unfulfilling meals.
now, the topic of carmen stepping in when his partner is struggling with meal prep or the actual cooking process for a meal is completely different! that involves logistics and practicality. in that case, yes, there might be a twinge of impatience and unwanted advice—but all in all, his only goal in that situation would be to utilize his passion in order to help and connect with his partner. not because he thinks he's sooooooo smart and his partner is just too inexperienced and uneducated.
carmen anthony berzatto is the baby of the family. his quickness to rage and his repeated offenses of losing control over his intense emotions when his passion and his plans are misconstrued only goes to such an extent. his impulsivity is apparent while his pre-judgement and genuine opinions are virtually nonexistent.
because the guy has no social skills.
no, carmen would not say "what the fuck are you eating?!?!)!? let me make you some real food!!!!" if i see this trope one more time it's gonna make me rip my hair out
