#stirituna

[ghostlytreats]

r u single

NO BBY. I'M WITH STIRITUNA. Sahrrrrry.

[ghostlytreats]

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Tagged by: ladypandacat

Name: Never you mind. B, to you lovely Tumblr peeps.

Time and date of current moment: Friday January 9, 2.03AM.

Average hours of sleep: My sleeping is so messed up, it can go from none to 12 hours (not solidly). Usually it's about 4/5 though - not nearly enough.

Last thing I googled: That the term 'detrimental' meant what I thought it did.

Nicknames: I have about a bajillion thanks to my best boys but they're only for them so.

Birthday: January 5.

Gender: Female.

Sexual Orientation: Straight.

Height: 5’3”.

Favorite color: Bright blue.

Place that makes me happy: My room. LDN. Anywhere with good company.

How many blankets I sleep under: I have my quilt and then my big heavy mink (faux obv) blanket.

Favorite movie: The Nightmare Before Christmas, Despicable Me 1/2. 

What are you wearing right now: Tshirt.

Last Book You Read: I've read like, 2 chapters of Gone Girl and I flipping hate the writing layout. Do not want.

Dream Job: It's lame AF but working on a makeup counter would make me ridiculously happy. Shove a lipstick in my hand and I could talk to you about it for ages. Plus I love love love helping people with things like that. ___________________________________________________________________

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[feministfeminism]

So to sum it up. I don't know. I'm not gonna tell you what to call it, but it's a good thing that you're aware of it, and in the future I'd just.. Well, don't ever let anyone pressure you into anything, even if it "seems reasonable or nice" - if there's a tiny little thing in your gut saying no, go with that. Always go with your gut feeling, listen to it, and take care of yourself. I have no idea if that helps you, it helps me, so I thought I'd share. Sorry if it's all useless.

Thank you so much for your response. Seriously, it’s so lovely to hear from you about this. I totally agree that it’s not something that the men even realize that they’re doing, because it’s based on cultural sexism and misogyny. I guess my main fear comes from feeling like I won’t be able to say no, and that even the act of saying yes renders me more powerless than I am comfortable with. But I think I’ve had enough time to think for myself about what I want to do/am comfortable doing, so I will just try to go forward knowing that I am in control and can say no to anything that doesn’t feel comfortable. Anyways, thanks for relating to me on this, and thank you for your advice!

(I hope it’s okay if I post your response - I’m not exactly sure how to tell if you wanted it private or not. If so, just let me know and I will immediately remove it!)

[feministfeminism]

Which is kinda ridiculous cus when you feel like you're in a situation, being "talked into giving a handjob" or whatever - isn't that technically abuse? Some taking advantage of you for their own benefit and such. It's not exactly easy but looking back I've realised that my ex boyfriend for 3 years raped me a couple of times. And I'm not sure he fully knew that it was raping; I think it's a cultural thing to do with men subconsciously thinking we owe them our bodies.

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[feministfeminism]

I've tried the same things you mention quite a few times, and while I'm not sure what to call it either, it's definitely being pressured into stuff you didn't feel comfortable doing or didn't want to do; and honestly, I think that most people's "standards" for rape and abuse is bloody and physical violence, so while this is a form of abuse too, being pressured into doing sexual stuff, it's not easy labelling it as such do to how "difficult" most people still find labelling rape and abuse.

Posting this lovely advice for anyone else who can relate. (cont)