noMAPs KNOW children can't consent, that's why they're Non Offending.
We cannot trust them to not act on their attraction.If they were truly non offending they wouldn’t be on a site full of minors.Nomaps are still people with an attraction to children and we have to prioritize children’s safety over anything else.And where is the line between map and “nomap” drawn.Does it mean you don’t look at cp,or talk to children,or work around children,or anything else.You are not gonna be congratulated for doing the bare minimum.
one thing that’s bothered me about this hinkle crap that I haven’t really seen around here is people excusing it by saying that she’s young, she just grew up in that environment, yadda yadda yadda and like, no? you can grow up in a hateful environment and still see when something people preach there is wrong.
like, let me tell you a bit about myself.
I come from a very religious, very anti anything lgbt country. we’re in the bloody eu, acting like a developed freaking country yet in the year 2017, we have a petition that’s already passed one house of parliament and could end with a referendum about changing the definition of family in the constitution from spouses to a man and a woman. we don’t even have civil partnerships, this will just make any eventual progress on this even harder. but anyway, my mom was religious, she’d take me to church on a regular basis. my grandmother and my aunts are very religious. my dad and my stepmom not as much, but it’s still important to them and we’ve got icons of jesus and others all over our apartment. growing up, all I’d hear about gay or, more rarely, trans people, were derogatory terms used as insults. I didn’t even know what being trans was, and years later I realized I am trans.
but that didn’t make me spew hateful bullshit at people? by the time I was 14-15, I would watch american and british shows and movies with characters who were part of the lgbt community and all those things I grew up with didn’t affect me? of course, I eventually realized I am part of that community (at first I thought I was gay, more recently I realized I’m actually trans) but at the beginning I didn’t. I didn’t feel hate or disgust at those characters, I felt love. I wanted to protect them from the hate I’d seen first hand, in real life, not fiction.
simply growing up in an environment surrounded by hate aimed at a certain group of people doesn’t automatically make you hateful.
I think that 'fix' was the wrong word for Stefan and Caroline etc to use. I don't think they meant it that way I think they just meant breaking the sirebond so she can be free to be the person she is not who Damon wants her to be.
No.
It is very deliberate that they use the word "fix". They both don't approve of how Elena is acting. And hey, I get that the sire bond is shit. No one is arguing that it isn't agency stripping and horrible and GROSS and the sire bond should go. That would be great if they were talking about that.
But it's not. Stefan specifically wants to "fix" Elena so she can be back to the girlfriend he had in his constructed reality; it's a thing that was the foundation of his and Elena's relationship, creating false realities so they can have moments of happiness and be who they wanted to be. He literally does not like her as a vampire. He didn't even bother to ever ask her if she wanted the cure until after she learned it from someone else. He didn't even bother to not harm her brother in the process. I mean this is Stefan off the rails since his reality is broken. I have zero fucking free passes for Stefan Salvatore.
Caroline is trickier. I honestly think it's wrapped up in the abuse that she's suffered and how she devices things as good and bad. Which is not detrimental or a horrible thing, because it's Caroline. You can't not think about it though. It's not a black and white thing. I think she wants to "fix" Elena because then things will be straight again. I mean she doesn't want her near Damon either because Damon abused her.
A better way to go about it would have been to have Stefan and Caroline talking and working with Elena. Or couching the language in breaking the sire bond and getting her agency back.
Not "fixing" her.
So no. It's not the wrong word, they meant it. Or well Stefan meant it and Caroline is going along with him.
Also you don't "fix" people. Ever. And you certainly don't "fix" people with depression and suicidal thoughts and ptsd.
