#straightness

[kirschita]

me when in s5 Mike tells Will "let's start a new party, you and me"

[fozmeadows]

on the outing of kit connor

can I just - 

the reason coming out is a thing - the whole reason we have a CONCEPT of coming out - are heteronormative social defaults. we live in a culture that assumes everyone is straight: that teaches us to assume, not only that everyone else is straight, but that we are straight, and which overwhelmingly, depending on context and location, either treats queerness as something external to the norm, something invisible and shameful, or something downright evil. and so we have a situation where, when you are queer in whatever way, coming out is never a one-and-done situation, because even if you’ve come out a hundred times in your life, strangers will continue to assume you’re cis and straight unless you tell them otherwise - which it may not always be safe to do, because of homophobia and transphobia. so out people, despite being out in whatever way, can still exist in this constant state of semi-closetedness, not because they want to, but because of the refusal of others to entertain the reality of their existence as a human default, rather than as a specialised exception to the norm. straightness and cisness can always be Assumed, says this logic, but queerness must be Proven: otherwise it cannot possibly exist.  

all this being so, when you demand that a real, human person discloses their sexuality to you before they’re ready? when you forcibly out someone? you’re contributing to the same heteronormative social defaults whose dominance you’re ostensibly using to justify Why Visible Queerness Matters, because what you’re really demanding is certainty, and the emphasis on certainty IS THE WHOLE GODDAMN PROBLEM. what you’re saying is, “I assume that everyone is straight until or unless they expressly confirm otherwise, because that’s the Correct Assumption. assuming that someone is queer, therefore, would be Incorrect, even if they’re signaling solidarity with and support for the queer community - even if they’re signaling queerness in other ways - because queerness isn’t allowed any ambiguity. I must be Certain of who is queer and who is Not, because it’s Wrong to assume a person isn’t straight” and I just.

[stares directly into the camera] really. really! who is it, I wonder, who taught you that it’s wrong to assume people aren’t straight? who told you that it’s potentially insulting to be thought of as queer, but NEVER insulting to be assumed straight? what social norms, I ask, imparted the idea that thinking of someone as queer is “imposing sexuality” on them (negative), whereas thinking of them as straight is Perfectly Normal? do you think, perhaps, that continually assuming everyone is straight to the point where you demand a public, notarised Admission Of Queerness to be exempted from that assumption maybe serves to further entrench the idea of Straight As Default, thereby creating a more hostile and less accepting environment for queer people? has it occurred to you that, if you respond with derision and hostility to anyone who (for instance) plays with gender presentation through fashion, evokes a queer aesthetic or otherwise says Fuck You to presenting as cishet without expressly confirming their queerness, you are making it HARDER for queer people to exist safely in public, to say nothing of shoring up toxic, shitty gender binaries for cishet people?

does the entertainment industry have a historical problem re: casting straight people in queer roles and praising their performances while simultaneously refusing to cast queer people in those roles because “it wouldn’t be acting”? YES. is this some homophobic bullshit? YES. does hollywood, despite its supposed status as a liberal bastion, still have a huge fucking problem with homophobia and treating out actors and other out creatives like shit? YES. 

is any of this improved by forcing queer actors to out themselves, the better to feel comforted that a FICTIONAL queer person isn’t being “disrespected” by a real human actor, or whatever the fuck other justification you’d care to run with? NO. NO IT FUCKING ISN’T. 

does forcing people to out themselves increase the lack of safety queer people feel and experience within an already homophobic industry? IT SURE FUCKING DOES. 

all of you go to your godamned rooms and think about what you’ve done

[etherealkieren]

lucas literally had the "troy bolton bisexual" plot in s4, like oh no! i like basketball And dnd! but in lucas case it's like way more homophobic :/

i can't decide if basketball is representing straightness or queerness, like in hsm it was obviously straightness, but in st with Lucas's friend group dnd is more widely accepted than basketball. but it feels like for will his queerness is represented in dnd, or maybe i guess his art? but also the whole upside down thing. so like I'm tempted to say dnd is queerness, but also idk does that mean the entire party is gay? like if so they def aren't aware of it lol.

but for lucas specifically, with his friends, basketball is more queer, but also it's seen as a way to fit into society, but lucas still feels like he doesn't fit in, so like I'm also tempted to say that for lucas basketball is representing bisexuality specifically, and his friends are being biphobic by not supporting him. and max it seems is the most supportive but she's distant bc of her own issues, so either way lucas doesn't feel that support.

either way it makes the ending of s4 more like lucas is rejecting or repressing his sexuality, so like homophobia :/

[are-you-being-sirius]

Softness, sunflowers, straightness, smiles, soft-hearted, sweet 💗🌻🌼🧁

Oh yeah this is hilarious. “Straightness” said no one ever about me

[gokuma]

Why can’t some couples talk normally? Like, their default sounds are yelling and screaming, cursing, slamming doors, calling each other “whores”, “dicks” and other charming names? How can you fight like that all the time and few hours later be outside, shopping, biking etc, pretending as if nothing happened?

How can you live this way?

HOW???

[fuckyeahasexual]

Aphobes have spent, what, years now? Fighting to the death against our assertions that Straightness requires positive romantic and sexual attraction toward members of an opposite binary gender, in order to argue that het aces and aros and aroaces are therefore “basically straight” and yet jughead, a canonically aroace character, reads as gay coded to the same group of people solely and explicitly because he doesn’t express the expected attraction to girls. Wow it’s almost like that’s literally exactly what we’ve been saying all along: in the eyes of anyone who’s paying attention, aces and aros of all kinds blatantly deviate from the expectations and requirements of heteronormative society and are not considered members of the Straight class. -Dew

[shitwesaid]

“He’s the only exception to your straightness.” Submitted by: @imagine-my-potato-ate-sparkles