#heteronormativity

[dusk-the-fallen]

"Is it okay to chest bind if I identify as a woman?" "I'm cis but I want to use binders" "Is it okay to go on T if I'm a cis woman-"

BUDDY. FRIEND. PAL. YOU DO NOT NEED PERMISSION. THOSE RESOURCES AREN'T AVAILABLE FOR ONE SPECIFIC GROUP! THEY'RE AVAILABLE FOR ANYONE WHO NEEDS IT! STOP ASKING FOR PERMISSION I PROMISE YOU NO ONE CARES WHAT YOU DO!

Edit: Radqueers fuck off. This post is not for you.

Edit 2: What the hell are TERFs doing here lmao

[tavern-get-togethers]

Can we please normalize and be normal about people going their entire life without sex, kissing, marriage, romance, a partner, dating and anything adjecent. Thank you for your participation.

[shadelorde]

Hey reminder that allonormativity is specifically intertwined with patriarchal heteronormativity. By which I mean — society does not only want everyone to have sex, it wants a very narrow definition of sex; heterosexual, monogamous, post-marriage sex that requires a romantic relationship, and in many spaces should only be had for the intention of having children.

Queer people who have sex do not benefit in this system and are seen as predators or ‘sexual deviants.’ Queer people who do not have sex do not benefit in this system because sex is viewed as a sort of taboo temptation that everyone will do eventually, and a requirement of marriage (which is also considered a requirement to be “successful” in life).

Which means that sex-averse and repulsed ace people are not “people pretending to be oppressed,” they’re not “people who don’t fancy a shag,” and it also means that ace people who do want to have sex and do talk about their experiences and say that asexuality =/= hating sex are not ‘trying to prove they can be normal’, they’re not traitors to the ace community, and they’re almost never materially benefitting from patriarchal heteronormativity and allonormativity.

Stop being shitty to other queer people.

[this-is-anti-masculinity]

Accounts like this one:

Gender, sex, attraction/relationships:

[PT: Gender, sex, attraction/relationships:]

@androqueer-struggles (focused on the oppression and struggles of peritransmascs, intersex mascs, butches, etc.)

@this-is-misogyny and @thisis-misogyny (focused on the oppression towards fems and women.)

@this-is-antitransfemininity (focused on the oppression of transfems and people who are transfeminized.)

@thisisexorsexism (focused on the oppression of enben, aka people on the non-binary spectrum.)

@this-is-antixeninity (focused on the oppression of xenogender people.)

@this-is-multigenderphobia (focused on the oppression of multigender people.)

@this-is-internoirism (focused on the intersection of intersexism and anti-black racism.)

@this-is-varsexism-transphobia (focused on the oppression of sexqueer and genderqueer people.)

@thisistransphobia (focused on the oppression of trans people.)

@this-is-amato-heteronormativity (focused on how amatonormativity and heteronormativity negatively impact people.)

@thisishomophobia (focused on how homophobia negatively impacts people.)

@thisis-biphobia (focused on the oppression of bi and other m-spec people.)

@this-is-anti-objectum (focused on the oppression of objectum people.)

@this-is-automisia (focused on the oppression of autospecs.)

@thisis-aphobia (focused on the oppression of aspec people.)

@this-is-abrophobia (focused on the oppression of abro people.)

Race, ethnicity, religion, and culture:

[PT: Race, ethnicity, religion, and culture:]

@thisisracism (focused on the oppression of BIPOC.) @this-is-indigemisia (focused on the oppression of Indigenous people.) @this-is-asiaphobia, @this-is-orientalism, and @this-is-sinophobia-orientalism (focused on the oppression of Asian people.) @this-is-sinomisogyny (focused on the intersection of misogyny and sinophobia, which is the oppression of East & Southeast Asians.) @this-is-maori-targeted-racism (focused on the oppression of Māori people.) @thisisantisemitism (focused on the oppression of Jews.) @thisis-islamophobia (focused on the oppression of Muslims.) @this-is-xenophobia (focused on how xenophobia negatively impacts people.) @this-is-antiarab (focused on the oppression of Arabs.) @this-is-anti-romani (focused on the oppression of Roma.) @this-is-anti-paganism-animism (focused on the oppression of pagans and animists.) @this-is-anti-religion (focused on the bigotry against religions.)

Disability, alterhumanity, & public/social perception/status:

@thisis--ableism (focused on the oppression people with disabilities.)

@this-is-neuropsych-ableism (focused on the oppression of neurological & psychological disabilities.)

@this-is-physi-sensory-ableism (focused on the oppression of physical disabilities, sensory disabilities, and neuropsych disabilities that cause physical symptoms.)

[PT: Disability, alterhumanity, & public/social perception/status:]

@this-is-audism (focused on the oppression of deaf and hard of hearing people, including those with auditory processing issues.) @this-is-agorableism (focused on the oppression of disabled people existing in public spaces.) @this-is-deformimisia (focused on the oppression of people with physical deformities and/or disfigurements.) @this-is-seizurism (focused on the oppression of people who experience seizures.) @this-is-anti-brain-injury (focused on the oppression of people with brain injuries.) @this-is-anti-idd (focused on the oppression of intellectual disabilities.) @this-is-infantilization (focused on the infantilization of people, particularly disabled people.) @this-is-saneism (focused on the oppression of people with psychological disabilities.) @this-is-phobia-discrimination (focused on the oppression of people with phobias.) @this-is-depressiomisia (focused on the oppression of people with depression.) @thisis-suicidism and @support-for-the-suicidal (focused on the oppression of suicidal people, and how to support them.) @this-is-cluster-b-saneism (focused on the oppression of people with cluster B personality disorders.) @this-is-anti-bpd (focused on the oppression of people with BPD.) @this-is-a-trauma-response (a place for people to submit their trauma responses and/or coping mechanisms.) @this-is-pluralphobia (focused on the oppression of plural people/plural systems.)

@thisisfictomisia (focused on the oppression of fictionfolk.)

@this-is-anti-little (focused on the oppression of age regressors and syskids.)

@this-is-kinmisia and @this-is-alterhumisia (focused on the oppression of alterhumans.)

@this-is-anthromisia (focused on bigotry against the anthro community, such as furries, scalies, beakies, etc.)

@this-is-fatphobia (focused on the oppression of fat people.)

@this-is-lookism (focused on the oppression of people who have "unacceptable" appearances, often overlapping with deformimisia/disfiguremisia.)

@this-is-anti-homeless (focused on the oppression of homeless people.)

@this-is-classism (focused on the effects of classism.)

Other:

[PT: Other:]

@thisisparamisia (focused on the oppression of people with paraphilias, especially those with paraphilic disorders.)

@this-is-antikink (focused on the effects of anti-kink purity culture.)

@this-is-whorephobia (focused on the oppression of sex workers.)

@this-is-parental-abuse (focused on the effects of parental abuse.)

@this-is-peer-abuse (focused on the effects of peer abuse.)

@thisis-speciesism (focused on the effects of treating humans as the superior species.)

@this-is-bioessentialism (focused on how bioessentialism negatively impacts people.)

@inclusive-youth-liberation (focused on youth liberation for all types of children.)

Notes:

[PT: Notes]

This-is-transgynephobia, this-is-biphobia, and this-is-sapphicphobia is run by a racist mod [link] (more examples are under the cut*) who stalks people and makes tons of accounts, do not follow those accounts.

This-is-transandrophobia is an endophobe [link], do not follow that account.

This-is-transmisandry is paramisic (has reblogged content conflating pedophile/zoophile with predator, has them on their DNI on their personal account, has reblogged content promoting authoritarian censorship.) Please do not harass (this goes for the other accounts too, but I'm extra specifying that here cuz this is a minor.)

Thisis-paraphilicsocialostracization is an endophobe [link], do not follow that account. UPDATE: So the account removed the endophobic statement from that post, but it did exist. They also removed all comments relating to it, completely erasing accountability.

This-is-islamophobia doesn't support LGBTQIA+ people [link], disregards enben ("both genders"), and goes by the "respect but don't support" rule, which isolates LGBTQIA+ Muslims from the account and also perpetuates the idea that queerness is a sin or choice.

To the people telling me that not every @ works - the reason why is because Tumblr only allows 50 mentions per post. There's nothing I can do about it.

(*Examples of the mod's racism below.)

[ghostlyfroggy]

Why would I care if other people my age are dating? Other people my age are in jail.

Stop pushing your heteronormative ideals on me, I just want to watch silly cartoons and cuddle with my cats.

[aro-ace-culture-is]

Aroace culture is hating that straight people can’t be normal about children. If a toddler has a friend that’s the opposite sex, they’ll be like, ‘ooh, is she your girlfriend?’ Karen, Jayden is three years old and he cried yesterday because he found out that worms don’t have legs. Let kids be kids, and don’t force your heteronormativity on literal toddlers.

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[thebisexualwreckoning]

And I think one of the biggest reasons people think butchfemme is heteronormative is because they forget that butchfemme are political identities first and aesthetic identities second

[sufferingfrommoodpoisoning]

I noticed this mask whenever Mike and El are together. It might be a visual motif for their masking behaviour.

S3, EP1

S4, EP3