keeping a positive mindset
keeping a positive mindset is very important not only in facing school, but in our daily lives as well. i am by no means a ball on sunshine and am actually quite the opposite but here’s how i try to keep myself positive even when things are looking pretty crap.
1. using bad grades as a motivation
bad grades are inevitable unless you’re some genius who gets all A’s all day err day. i usually take these bad grades as a motivation for myself to study harder. i mean sure it’s completely normal to be upset but use it to bounce back and get yourself in the mood to study.
2. it’s just a bad grade, it does NOT determine your future
one fail grade doesn’t mean you’re a failure, that you’re stupid. no, no, no and NO. everyone has topics or subjects they’re better at. it’s okay to fail a couple of tests but the most important thing is that you’ve put in you best effort into each test. it also doesn’t mean you’ll do badly for the rest of the year/term!! with hard work and a little help from your teacher or your friends i’m sure you’ll be able to pick yourself back up :)
3. hard work always brings results
and by this i don’t mean working hard aimlessly. i mean studying hard and ensuring you clarify what you don’t understand and then practicing to make sure it sticks in your mind. not just writing notes for the sake of writing them and then not understanding a single thing. if you are highly unconvinced about this, i am pretty much your living proof. i’d failed my secondary 3 additional math exam with the second worst grade and managed to pull myself up to a distinction during o’levels, with the help of tuition and me hardcore practicing add math and asking my tutor and friends for help along the way. ((i don’t mean to brag btw!! ><)) so yes, it is possible to improve. if you already decide that you can’t improve, you really won’t.
ranting or talking about it to a friend may be able to make you feel better, releasing any pent up frustrations. this honestly works for me because i am an explosive af person ((whoops)) and would always ranting about it to my friends. the worst thing you can do, in my opinion, is to swallow everything and keep everything to yourself because that’s the easiest way to a breakdown, which we would want to avoid going through.
5. remember that you aren’t alone
there will always be people struggling with their studies as well, you aren’t the only one struggling/stressed/frustrated/upset. and that’s okay. you don’t always have to have your shit together 24/7, 365 or 366 days a year. it’s okay to mope around for a while but what’s most important is that you pick yourself back up again. in fact, those who look as though they have their shit together may actually be breaking at the seams as well. so no, you aren’t alone. and it’s okay to not be okay. as cheesy as it sounds, it’s true. you can’t be perfect at everything; it’s unrealistic.
i hope this post kinda helped and if you have any requests on what kind of masterposts i should make, don’t hesitate to drop me a message and let me know!
also, if you need to talk to someone, i’m always willing to lend a listening ear. just send me a private message, i’ll get back to you as soon as i can.
stay strong, hang in there and you can do it!! xx -alysa :)
