#suffering olympics

[fuzzykazeki87]

At first I don't get why everyone wanted Elsa to back home, now I get it. Bring back my icy lesbian queen with her sunshine lesbian baby sister queen.

Half the fandom when new Frozen content drops but it’s mostly Anna-only and no Elsa in charge: ‘guess I’ll just shut up then before someone says I hate Anna’

Some of you need to understand this: Frozen works because it’s about the sisters. That’s why so many people don’t vibe when the narrative sidelines one of them (which the comics did *coughs) because it kills the very thing that made Frozen iconic. Nobody wanted “half a Frozen,” and nobody came for “heroine plus boyfriend” stories.

People came for Anna and Elsa together.

And let’s be real: a huge chunk of Frozen’s global popularity does come from Elsa. That’s not shade, that’s just facts. “Let It Go,” her character arc, her powers, her relatable characteristic of being mentally ill and textbook PTSD; she’s a cultural phenomenon. Pretending otherwise doesn’t make Anna shine more; it just ignores why Frozen blew up in the first place.

You can’t just swap one sister for their love interest and expect the same impact; it’s not gonna hit the same. That chemistry, that yin-yang bond, that is the core of Frozen.

Reality check: the sisters are the cultural reset, not the romance subplot.

Even adults don’t care for that swap-out, because without the dual energy of Anna and Elsa, the story just doesn’t spark the same magic.

Some childish Anna stans already sprinting to Pinterest to make a moodboard about how she’s the greatest Disney princess ever, or cooking up another comparison chart against Elsa (not that Elsa stans don’t do the same; every stan group messy in their own way. Clowns are universal, ya know?). Relax, baby girl, it’s not that deep.

Anna is amazing. She’s the embodiment of unconditional love. She loves Elsa exactly as she is, no matter what anyone else says and that’s powerful. She’s brave, persistent and the reason their story even holds together. She never once tried to change her, only to reach her. Anna just wants her sister.

But Elsa is equally important. She represents self-discovery and identity and she gives Anna space to shine in her own way. That’s the beauty of their bond. Elsa reminds Anna that she can’t stay frozen in grief forever, no matter how heavy it feels; she has to keep moving.

And Anna reminds Elsa that even when the path is isolating and painfully cold, there’s still love and family waiting to pull her back.

Elsa inspires Anna and Anna grounds Elsa.

They complete each other’s arcs that’s literally why the franchise works.

So yeah, we can hype Anna all day, but pretending she’s enough without Elsa (or vice versa) misses the entire point of Frozen. It’s about the two sisters together. End of story.

(P.S. y’all with the endless “but Anna suffers more than Elsa” / “no, Elsa suffers more” debates… how about we just admit both sisters suffer, just in different ways? One’s pain doesn’t cancel out the other.

Anna goes through abandonment, rejection, and literally fighting tooth and nail for family.

Elsa goes through isolation, fear of herself, and the crushing weight of responsibility.

At the end of the day, it comes down to which kind of suffering you personally relate to more not some weird competition scoreboard. Frozen isn’t about “who had it worse,” it’s about two sisters carrying different burdens and still choosing love anyway.)

[wreathmoon]

it’s holy week (insert every pic ever taken of ben affleck smoking)

[srkyy]

[nirivenova]

There are those who claim to have knowledge because in their addiction to tiktok news, they find an outlet to vent their multifaceted rage, which gives them temporary assurance of something, however untrue in the reality beyond the screen.

Then there are those who are living the media spectacle, who have actually been to the places being talked about, whose own calm takes are blatantly disregarded. Because at the end of it all, it is not truth that matters to these pathetic geriatric ipad kids, but the imaginary scandal that keeps them equal parts entertained and angry.

[aces-and-blackberry-blossoms]

I want to say something not in my usual vein of nonsense

The suffering Olympics need to stop.

The whole "What you're going through/went through isn't bad, look at what this person went through!" shit is damaging.

Now, I'm not saying that one can't empathize with someone's experience while having one of their own. It is the canceling out of one person's experience with another's that's the problem.

It's shaming a new parent for feeling tired and overwhelmed because that person over there lost a child or can't have one.

Is telling a depressed or anxious person that their suffering doesn't count because that person over there has a *real* reason to be depressed or anxious.

It's telling someone that the abuse they experienced because of their orientation, religion, race, or abilities can't be damaging because another person was subjected to worse abuse.

We don't do it with positive things. We don't tell someone who just got a job "Phht, big deal, Jimmy just got a huge raise, and a car!"

We don't tell someone who just graduated college: "You're happy about *that*? What for? Sara just got her PhD!"

It doesn't matter of something that someone went through doesn't seem like a big deal to *you* if it is significant to them, then respect that.

[thevikingvegan]

My conscience is clean knowing that an animal felt uncomfy before being made into things like medicine and food. I will always choose a human over a cow or pig. They are sentient but are they going to be anything more than that? There are people who are more than sentient who need the energy and compassion that you're wasting on farm stock.

There’s no dilemma here. You’re not choosing a human over a cow or a pig when you decide to pay for the slaughter of that cow or pig. Or when you buy a pair of leather shoes. Or when you go to the zoo, if you’re into that kind of thing. I can perfectly distribute my energy and compassion between all species. My heart is THAT big.

[capes]

yes but have you thought about steve giving bucky eskimo kisses today yet

[ninjaruski]

Somebody explain to me....

Where the idea that we have to form a hierarchy of narratives of oppression came from?

What's wrong with recognizing that there are multiple marginalized groups and these groups have their own histories that occasionally intersect and therefore no one group can say they have a monopoly on suffering.

Unless you're Indians (Native Americans), according to Chris Rock and George Carlin.