sun square moon
-for people with this aspect, what they want in life may be very conflicting to what they need in life which may cause difficulties for them
-this is said to be one of the most difficult aspects in astrology, as the sun [the need to shine] is always in conflict with the moon [the need for emotional security]
-they usually feel like their head and their heart are not able to work together and are always sending mixed messages which are hard to translate into positive actions/reactions
-they may experience inner struggles which cause them to become/act as their own worst enemy at times; they may be self destructive, attract challenging situations, practice negative habits, get stuck in damaging cycles and/or have negative mindsets/attitudes
-it is common for those with this aspect to struggle with feeling unwanted or unaccepted by others; this either being a big theme of their past or a prevalent belief in their present
-it is possible that for some reason, people with this aspect did not feel accepted, loved, cherished, wanted or appreciated by their parents or prominent figures in their life [maybe particularly their childhood]
-however, it may sometimes be the case that their parents did not necessarily not love them, not accept them or not want them; in some cases their parents may just be opposites to them and express their love in different ways [the quote 'just because you love me does not mean I feel loved by you' may be apt for them]
-regardless of whether they were loved or not, they may have felt unloved or unaccepted in some way at some point, and if so this often causes them to feel determined to prove themselves to the world somehow [sometimes this can be a motivation to prove themselves to whoever made them feel unwanted, but often this can be a drive to prove to themselves that they are deserving of love and deserving of being accepted by others]
-people with this aspect usually experience a struggle between wanting to be nurtured, wanting to be cared for, wanting to be loved and needed by others but in contrast wanting to be independent, wanting to be self sufficient, not wanting to rely or depend on others which can be very conflicting and difficult for them
-because of this, they may experience an internal conflict and feel like they never truly know what they want or understand what they need; for example, if people treat them how they believe they want to be treated, they might react in a way that conflicts what they were initially seeking [if someone gives them the space they believe they needed to be independent, they end up feeling unsupported, whereas if people try to care for them and show love to them, they end up feeling smothered]
-at times, they may just feel like nothing seems right or nothing goes right; they may experience several clashes, conflicts or difficulties in various areas of life which likely will leave them feeling lost and lonely
-despite commonly experiencing a fair share of negativity in life, people with this aspect are commonly a lot more resilient than most [often due to any negativity they have already experienced] and tend to be good at overcoming hard times because of this
-usually, they learn best through experience and generally have had a lot of experiences/hurdles to overcome and work through to learn from. they usually benefit from finally understanding that they need to live life for themselves rather than constantly seeking to prove themselves to others or gain validation from others
-people with this aspect may notice that they experience a lot of ups and downs in life, or have to go through various scandals or dramas
-because of this and their internal struggles, they can become quite reactive people which can result for people around them to be defensive around them or tread carefully around them
-people with this aspect would generally benefit from not reacting too emotionally to things, instead trying to take time to process and understand things rather than reacting straight away or taking things to heart/taking things too personally
-it can be easy for them to blame others/external things on their problems but it would be better for them to acknowledge that a lot of their issues are caused by subconscious internal conflicts that stem from the contrast between their wants and needs
-they may experience repetitive behaviours or hold on to bad habits that impair them from succeeding or healing; sometimes these can stem from the pressure they put on themselves to prove themselves to others or can be a release from the stresses of the conflict between their wants and needs
-perhaps they would need to acknowledge their emotions more than most in order to help themselves and heal from any internal struggles
-it is important that people with this aspect work towards finding a balance in life; especially a balance between their wants and needs. it is vital that they do not give up/sacrifice one for the other; for example, they should not push themselves to never depend on anyone else ever, instead should try to allow themselves to be independent yet open to the love and care of others without feeling needy or incapable for it
-they may also be more linked/attached to their past, so working on letting go of old experiences and releasing anything from the past that does not benefit them in any way would likely help them a lot
-it can sometimes be the case that people with a sun square moon aspect had to suppress or hide their emotions a lot in their past or during their childhood which may cause feelings of low self worth, self doubt and issues expressing and understanding their emotions
-it can often be difficult for them to feel comfortable even with themselves; while it is often easier for them to understand why other people may make them feel uncomfortable at times, when it comes to their own discomfort it can be a lot more difficult for them to process and can therefore make it easier for them to hold onto negativity or feelings of low self worth, insecurity etc
-it can be easy for them to become frustrated with life and usually this is for good reason; it often seems that people with this aspect have been dealt a bad card in life and may feel like they attract misfortune or struggle to obtain any ability to find the resources to succeed or get to where they want to be in life
-while giving up may seem like the only option for them at times, it is so important for them to keep pushing and remain determined and hopeful, as giving up continuously will be more detrimental and harmful for their emotions
-although this aspect seems like total doom and gloom, those with it are capable of success and are capable to live a happy, fulfilled life; they unfortunately may just need to work harder than most to get there and need to be extremely dedicated, focused etc
-their internal struggle between what they want in life and what they need in life may cause them to wander aimlessly which can be the biggest cause of further difficulties or struggles; they would likely benefit greatly from being organised, planning more and having a better vision of their goals
-while it may be natural for people with this aspect to give up easily and stop at the first hurdle, it is essential that they plan enough and never give up when working towards their goals or anything they want in life; they need to be able to learn from their setbacks rather than giving up because of them and using these setbacks to make themselves feel worse emotionally
-inner conflicts may interfere with their external life, relationships, work etc but in order to prevent this they need to stop suppressing their emotions and not be afraid to feel things; they should listen to their deepest wants and needs rather than ignoring or hiding them
-they usually would do well to remember that any insecurity, lack of confidence or feelings of low self worth are not actually reality and instead is only their distorted perception of themselves that is able to be changed if they work on improving their confidence