How to support the child in a difficult period
Breaking the Cycle of Codependency
This autumn was for our family is very difficult: the husband fell ill, and almost all the physical, financial and moral resources were redirected to the solution of health problems.
While I, When the wolf sedative, torn between home, hospital, and a bunch of cases, with my four-year-son "nyankalis" turns our friends and family from out of town came on the weekends.
In the garden, he almost did not go: it was sitting at home with a cold the next, I was not sure I could pick it up on time and not be late again in the hospital until late. In general, the child was fed, supervision, provided cartoons, games and developmental activities, but her mother had seen sporadically, and to his father generally not allowed.
I at that time was not much to it, and he did not show much concern, stop asking when Daddy will return, already a week and a half. But all did not want to recover from illness, bad eating, went silent and pale. Before I realized what was going on, but when he sat down to a proposal to paint and painted the pope - such as he used to see him every evening, when he returned from work. When a direct question: "Dad miss" malogovoryaschih boy replied, "I miss ...". The day before going to bed, I did not stop short arms and long hugs his son, told him that Mom and Dad is always with him and love him, even if they are now not there, they always come back to it, no matter how far and for a long time not left ...
Until now, every night I sit with him on the bed, until he naobnimaetsya and say, "Good night." And spit on the case and calls - we had occupied a very important thing. And all the walks, he still tries to get away, as before, but is between the parents, taking both hands - so that more have not gone away ...
Td Jakes - God Is With You In The Battle
These few months brought together much our family has helped to prioritize. And if, God forbid, you will find yourself in a crisis situation, do not dwell on their experiences and support and child, too, no matter how small, silly and knew nothing about what was happening, he did not appear. And with all the easier it will be to survive.
