To the adults with toxic parents that abused them through childhood: You can stop talking to your parents. If you don't live with or rely on them some way you can just leave and never come back to them. Seriously. It's ok. You're over 18 now you're able to sustain yourself. They can't punish you or take anything away ever again. Once you cut contact they will never be able to hurt you again unless you reconnect. If you experienced trauma in your childhood at the hands of your parents you will not be able to heal from that unless you cut contact for at least a while. I know it's hard to hear but the fact is you really can't heal someone else and while it's admirable that you still have hope they are unlikely to change. I cut contact with my mother 6 years ago and it was the best decision I ever made. My PTSD spends more time in remission than ever and I've never felt more free and safe than I have over the past 6 years. You can do it and you have a right to do it. I believe in you.