491. Dolly Parton's 'Just Because I'm A Woman' (Written By Susannah Young)
Hey y'all: I have another guest post on the blog today. Since I'm looking at wrapping this up at post 500, I wanted to take the opportunity to further one of this blog's stated missions: publishing the music writing of Susannah Young. Susannah used to write about music for Pitchfork, Under the Radar, and the blog we met each other at. But now her career as a hotshot corporate writer limits her in this endeavor, and I'm not being biased when I say she's one of my favorite writers to read on any piece of music. So, for the third time, I asked Susannah to write about a record. Apart from me, she's the most prolific writer this blog has known. Here she is on Dolly Parton:
Gentle readers, forgive me in advance: this is supposed to be an essay about Dolly Parton -- and more specifically, about Dolly Parton’s Just Because I’m A Woman -- but I can't talk about Dolly Parton without also talking about my shifting, complicated relationship with country music.
As an imperious, know-it-all butterball of a tween, I remember telling my aunt -- who was just trying to bring me into her love for Brooks & Dunn’s “Boot Scootin’ Boogie -- that I “don’t care for country music” and “I don’t listen to it because it doesn’t talk about things that are important or important to me.” UGH, right?
Several years later -- still an imperious, know-it-all butterball but now a full-fledged teen -- I was still publicly making fun of my cousins for always wanting to dance to Reba McEntire’s Unlimited and Dolly Parton’s My Tennessee Mountain Home at my grandma’s house, and rolling my eyes at every twang and “dang” spilling out of car windows and backyards and repair shops into the still, humid air. But all the while, seduced by some genetic secret, I was covertly renting collections of traditional Appalachian music from the local library, soaking in every hiss and pop, weaving my own thoughts into the ghosts of the land and the past crackling out of the speakers.
Fast-forward to college, and Ryan Adams’ music is fully taking up 1/5th of my heart, and posters with his face, 1/8th of my dorm room wall. Present day, I probably listen to Unlimited and My Tennessee Mountain Home more often than anyone else in my family and have played the role of Miranda Lambert apologist more than once at local bars. Irrespective of how I felt about it, country music has always shaped my identity.
And identity is everything to Southerners -- for two reasons:
1) People who have everything and people who have nothing (those two income brackets combine cover just about everyone in the South) are the people who are most invested in their relationship to the place they’re from and the places where their people came from; and
2) More than just about any other region of the United States, the Southeast is, for terrible reasons, a nexus of cultural intersection where this blending produced fascinating music, food and accents whose origins beg to be teased out and traced.
I am from the South, through and through. My dad’s family were subsistence farmers in North Mississippi. My mom’s dad grew up in a rowhouse in DC, her mom’s family hailed from the mountains of western North Carolina. You had to drive up the mountains in a stream to get to their place because at a certain point, developers admitted that nature did a better job building roads into remote hollers than they ever could.
I’ve never been embarrassed of being from Appalachia and being so thoroughly of the South -- but I can’t say I wore it like a badge of pride growing up. Dismissing country music was a way of distancing myself from the place where I grew up, the place where my people came from. It was me, knowing deep down that I wanted to choose a different life; that I wanted to live in a big city; that I wanted to place my trust in other people who were different from me, not in God and my country and my truck; that poverty was a thing to work together and defeat -- not a thing to be silently endured, then romanticized in ways other people could profit from.
In aggregate, country music tells the story of poor folks, a marginalized population that’s been through some tough shit -- but so many of those stories get the rose-colored glasses treatment, the “we didn’t have much, but we had each other” treatment. Not that that’s not a valid way to cope with a tough situation, or that you shouldn’t find things to be grateful for no matter what your situation is -- but it can be a dangerous mode of thought, as it tends to neuter the notion of fighting back or taking down the forces that pushed you into this situation in the first place. In other words, the danger of romanticizing the ways you cope with poverty is that it breeds a certain measure of apathy about ending poverty. The part of me that’s always furious about things like this always thinks FOR GOD’S SAKE, DON’T ACCEPT AND ROMANTICIZE; RISE UP AND FIGHT BACK. But when I *actually* started listening to country music, I realized that a lot of it does that -- and sometimes in sneaky, underhanded ways.
Enter Dolly Parton. She’s as guilty as any country musician when it comes romanticizing poverty (see: “Coat of Many Colors,” even as much as I love that song). She came from nothing and ended up with, arguably, everything: from one of twelve kids living in a house with no running water or electricity, to an international star on the merits of her own talent...talent that, regrettably, often gets overshadowed by fake boobs, teased wigs, thick makeup. But Dolly -- like many other country musicians -- often uses country music as a way to introduce some challenging ideas to skeptical folks, in the same way you’d wrap a pill in a piece of ham to get your dog to eat it. Because of country music’s perceived inoffensiveness (read: whiteness), it’s the perfect safe haven for artists to express unpopular (and yes, sometimes even progressive) ideas in ways that get people to buy into them, without fully realizing the full scope of what they’re buying into. Even before the Dixie Chicks outed themselves as politically progressive feminists, they were singing things like “I opened my mouth/ And I heard myself.” It made my friends and I feel more comfortable with being “out” about liking country music -- but my conservative family and others throughout the Bible Belt were also singing along to those same songs, songs about women leaving men for bigger dreams and broader goals, getting the fuck out of small-minded small towns. They were getting smacked in the face with entry-level feminism without even realizing it -- all because it was set to fiddles and banjos.
Therein lies the genius of Dolly Parton. She frames empowerment, agency and equality in completely concrete ways. She doesn’t talk about feminism conceptually, which can be a hard sell to people who don’t already buy it. She talks about feminism in the context of how you’d act in real-life situations in the name of self-preservation and self-esteem.
And Just Because I’m A Woman is a case study in taking that approach to feminism. Every song on the album centers on women moving through the world on their own terms, and positioning themselves to make their own choices about the course of their lives. The title track unsubtly skewers the double standard that exists regarding men taking multiple sexual partners versus women taking multiple sexual partners. “The Bridge” finds a woman applying an Awakening-style solution to her unplanned, unwanted pregnancy.
Even “I’ll Oilwells Love You,” a song about gold-digging, has a whiff of empowerment: she’s playing your boy like a fiddle, using the patriarchy to her advantage to make herself comfortable and secure. And even on “False Eyelashes,” where she’s lamenting the way performing shaped her life and stripped its happiness and meaning away, she acknowledges that it’s her own choices that got her into this situation -- and only her own choices can get her out of it.
This is an album about agency, wrapped up in talk of men, of diamonds, of pretty dresses and wide eyes. It’s important. It’s subversive. It’s important because it’s subversive.
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It’s worth noting that Andrew and I leveled up from writing colleagues at a shitty music blog to Full-Blown Internet Friends based on some tweet I tweeted so very long ago that went something like “When you say you like everything except country and rap, I hear ‘I only like songs about fake problems.’” Country and rap are almost all I listen to anymore. I discovered I loved music by listening to young white men sing about the Young White Male Experience, and while there’s some overlap there (though I am a woman, I’m tall and have blonde hair and blue eyes; that’s that privilege swag), that’s really not my frame of reference. That’s not MY narrative.
Nothing’s brought alternate perspectives and untold stories to the forefront the same way the internet has -- and it’s no coincidence that as that’s happened, outlets for music criticism have broadened the scope of what they’re willing to cover, genre- and artist-wise, country artists cross over into pop, and shows like Nashville get made, aired on network television and become moderately popular. It doesn’t necessarily mean country music is commanding more respect at the macro level, but at least more people are paying attention.
And I feel (mostly) good about that. Seeing your narrative play out on the big stage invites it to get corrupted and co-opted and denigrated and misinterpreted -- but having that kind of exposure does, on some level, validate it. It says this experience, this frame of reference matters, that it’s worth sharing. And the more insight any of us has into alternate points of view, the more tolerant we become. You can only fully hate something if you’re completely ignorant about it. Knowledge breeds nuanced opinions and promotes openness. Fittingly, over the years, I’ve seen a lot of folks reverse their stance on Dolly Parton as they learn more about her and hear more of her songs. They no longer see her as the butt of a joke, a composite of tits and plastic surgery and rhinestones and hairspray; they see her for who she is: a talented and insightful songwriting powerhouse, a powerful and creative entrepreneur, an advocate for the poor, a feminist, an icon for gay men.
This “knowledge-->appreciation” journey is the exact trajectory of my relationship with country music. Growing up, I thought I should hate country music because I am a progressive, open-minded person. As I became more secure in myself and my relationship to the place I come from, I realized that even though so many country artists preach a lot of narrow-minded bullshit, liking most country music has actually made me a more open-minded person. I’m more quick to stick up for the value of narratives and art that people are quick to dismiss as pedestrian, uncomplicated, hokey, dumb or cheesy. And my growing acceptance of country music went hand-in-hand with a more positive opinion of the place where I’m from. I’m a kinder judge of my roots, of my hometown. I’ve got country music to thank for this opened mind -- and I’ve got Dolly to thank for helping open my mind to country music.
I hope that as long as there are people grappling with the good and bad sides of their identity and the twinned awesomeness and awfulness of their homes, that there are kind, perfectly manicured hands to gently usher them toward a new way of thinking about themselves and where they’re from. Thank you for doing that for me, Dolly.
Susannah Young has been to Dollywood. She's on Twitter.--@susannahyoung















