#taenonymous

[enchantechante]

Can a toxic mother cause just as much damage as an absentee father?

Oh, definitely.

[goodmorningtae]

We’re back , Bae! 😎 Tuesday, October 6th @ 10AM PST! 🥳✨

[enchantechante]

Have you ever been rejected by a man, left on read or he just stopped talking to you out of the blue?If so then have you ever contacted that person or people after went by in person or via facebook?Do you think doing things like that is healthy?

GIRL YES! Plenty of times. I have been ghosted out the blue. 

With ghosting, I try and make sure a persons okay. But when Im sure they are and they’re just ignoring me? I let go of all contact. For the most part, my personality type has what’s called a “Door Slam” feature. We dont go back. 

There was 1 young man I actually met on tumblr (those who know know) that I was trauma-bonded to for years. 

I have childhood abandonment issues so I always have to say a final goodbye. This clears my conscious knowing I tried to check on them, knowing I am abandoned, knowing I left in peace. 

Contacting someone who wants nothing to do with you is a passive form of self-harm. It promotes obsessive behaviors. Blatantly ignores healthy boundaries. And rewards inconsistency from both parties. 

I would give myself fake rewards for not self harming. I had accountability partners after bad break ups. We actually called it, “No restraint, no paint.” If I reached out to ‘him’ I couldn’t enjoy one of my favorite activities. Eventually I realized to succumb to the old me is death and pain, and to rise into the new me is life, beauty, peace and pleasure. 

Happy healing! ✨

[enchantechante]

Prev anon here,again. You're so right and I agree. He hasn't heard from me in over a week and I'm not responding + I'm in school. Been studying for a while for a major certification that's coming up. He knows about that too and hasn't asked about school in at least a month. Our convo WAS going well and he seemed sweet and I WAS interested. But no,screw that. He can go focus on his kids. I'll be changing my number soon anyways. Acting like we're together. Smh. I don't have time for it. Thank you!

I’m glad we can agree he’s a “habitual line-stepper”!!  

And relieved that you have so many ways to focus your time and affection to someone more worth it - you! 

This is where the real glow up is at. When you find the one you gon be shinin!! ✨

For anyone else who wants to talk self love, self investment and romance you can find us already having the conversation on ✨Good Morning, Bae TV! ✨Tuesdays at 10 AM. Like, subscribe and hit the notifications 🛎 ✨ bell for more content! 

[enchantechante]

Within the last 2 weeks or so,I made the decision to focus on myself.I haven't text or talked on the phone much to anyone & anyone who's been interested in me,I put them on the back burner also( I told them from day one that I was never looking for anything serious,only friends,and to not expect much). I'm just getting ready for state boards & figuring out me. Then my ex text me,tripping,because we haven't talked.Am I wrong for feeling disgusted with him?He should be glad I even speak to him.🙄

My God...

Would you let a real friend be upset with you for focusing on yourself, preparing for the state board etc - and still call them your “friend”? Does that sound like something a healthy, reasonable friend would do?

He is lucky you even speak to him especially because he’s likely an ex for a reason.

However you cant feel like youre wrong for being consistently firm about your social boundaries w this young man. No you wont answer the phone. It doesnt matter who ur entertaining either! The respect for you and your personal space should be regardless of cicurcumstantial details.

If you ask a friend to give you space and theyre not - theyre being disrespectful. Regardless of if yall used to date.

Im not going to tell you how to feel @ disgusted. But I definitely think you may have to back up more from this young man so he doesnt think he can just go off in your inbox bc he cant emotionally cope w the space you require.

Yall exes wildin this summer... I dont even know what to say about this but Im definitely adding it to the Tae onymous segment of the next episode of Good Morning, Bae TV! Subscribe and hit the notifications bell to know when it drops! 🛎✨

[enchantechante]

Good morning,Chante! I'm looking through some of your answered questions because I need help and wanted to check if any asked something similar before asking. The anon who asked about contacting her friend who unfriended her,been friends for years and haven't talked in over a year. You told them to contact her if they want it's not a bad thing. I'm going through that now. She stopped talking to me cause she chose to chase a man instead. Would I be a clown if I see how her and her kids doing?

Good morning, love!✨👋🏽 Yeah I think thats fine!

I think both of yall are just realizing that your friendships are changing. Dont expect her to get back to you too quick but we all need our friends no matter who we’re involved w romantically.

[enchantechante]

Hey,Tae! A while back,you gave me advice about going back to school after I lost my job. I took it and will graduate next week from my CNA class. I'm so excited. I feel like this is me finally getting on the right path. I'll be able to get a job with better pay,pay off debt,go to college and finally get drivers lessons and get a car. The future is bright and I'm more than ready.Thank you for being the light while I was in a dark place. You're the sweetest EVER. I wish you all the best.☺❤❤❤❤❤

YOU DID IT! 🥳 

So very proud of you for not only taking the advice but running with it to the finish! 

Thank you for sharing this. I hardly ever get to see the results of all the advice I give. And this is wonderful results! ✨🙌🏾

[enchantechante]

Your posts be making me tear up.You n the anons so sweet n shit. 😔

I knooooowwww Anon me too! I be in here shook behind some of these cases like

genuinely have never prayed harder for strangers. 🙏🏾