Sep 27, 2025
Lover & I ran into another relationship speedbump. There's been a few now. A wobble. A rupture and repair. Not quite realising what I needed to talk about until we defs needed to. It's the bog standard stuff, scheduling, poly structure, navigating risk.
In the past I would've been hightailing outta there, needing to demonstrate to myself that I'm fine without them. But this person is different and I'm different with them. I'm grateful, relieved even, that ruptures are coming up.
Every speed bump is an opportunity to set our norms for the long term.
#Me taking a long term view in the first year?#I never thought I would#They meet me in more ways than I thought I could get in one person#I know I'm going to keep wanting this relationship#daydreaming about commitment rituals for our anniversary#down so bad#t4t love#rupture and repair#polyam#💜#verdant talks#switch4switch#I legit have barely done rupture and repair in the first year before#Take that avoidance#I can bring my feelings before they're stagnant and overwhelming#And this person hears me and responds with love#I'm melted