Should you text him if you’ve never really talked to him?
Hey guys! Here’s my first post, and I wanted to tackle this topic... the topic you get so many different answers for. Let me get something straight though: This isn’t about if you’ve been talking to the guy repeatedly. This is if you’ve never really talked to him, and you’re initiating conversation via DM or text. *I’m not talking about dating websites. I’m talking about school, work, etc.*
I’ve been through a lot of situations where this question popped up: and my friends always gave me the same advice: text him!
Of course, in this day and age we don’t usually ask for numbers anymore - we find them on social media and message them then, right? Yes. Now do I think you should text him? No. Why? Because you’re leaving too much in the open. You message him. The ball’s in his court... and it could stay in his court. In other words “Seen” after your message glares back at you.
I’m tired of hearing “Guys like it when you message them and take charge.” In all honesty, and in my full experience, that’s just not the case.
That’s why I want to give advice to everyone. Why should you message someone you’ve barely talked to, just to ‘initiate’ contact and hope something’ll come from that? No. Have you ever had a true friendship with someone online? Highly doubtful; studies have shown that when we’re online we often take on a different persona than one would actually carry in real life. A loudmouth troll online could be the quietest, non-confrontational person in real life. Think about anonymity.
If you go up and ask a guy out in real life - you might get a shy and uncomfortable response (or the opposite, who knows). But online, it’s way easier to left you on ‘seen’ or turn you down simply because that person wouldn’t have to deal with your emotions face to face. With a swipe, the app or tab can be exited, possibly never thought of again.
Anyways, before I go off on further tangent...
If you really like someone, you should talk to them in person and develop a relationship through that. Once you get to a friendlier stage where you can talk without feeling shy or scared, then you can text them.
