there was a rumor that yunho ateez dating a florist can you confirm that w tarot?https://www.allkpop.com/article/2022/10/ateezs-yunho-wrapped-up-in-dating-rumors
I’m sorry, I don’t do readings for people who aren’t consenting for them. This K-pop artist and whoever the rumor is about didn’t agree to have a reading done.
I do the general readings on here for people who willingly participate in them, and if someone wants a personal reading I will discuss it with them. I just get uncomfortable doing readings where the person requesting isn’t part of the reading themselves, especially when it comes to things as complicated as relationships.
I also tend to not do pregnancy and health readings for the same reason. For me, tarot is a tool to the inner workings of the psyche not a reliable enough divination tool.
Do you ever have this urge to do a reading on someone close to you? Like waking up with anxiety and this ominous feeling centered on a particular person close to you? And feel like you should read the cards just to see if there's anything you can do to help/warn them about because you love them? or is that too invasive and unethical?
Oh gosh yes, I do feel this. Although I do have blanket permission from my closest friends to read for them whenever I feel the need to. They also have my permission to tell me to shove it when they don’t want to receive my warnings/advice. Until I had those discussions with them, then it would have violated my personal ethics. You’ve got to decide for yourself if it feels like crossing a line - would it be harder than calling with “dude, I drew the tower for you” to call and say “I’ve got a funny feeling; can I read for you?”
Sooner or later every reader gets the pull to read about someone who did not ask. A crush, an ex, a family member's situation, a name that keeps surfacing. The question underneath is almost always the same: what are they thinking, what are they hiding, what do they feel about me.
Here is the thing it took me a while to accept. A reading does not give you a live feed of another person's private mind. What you are reading is the connection and your own side of it. The cards show the state of the thing between you and where you are standing in it, not a transcript of their thoughts. So "what is he thinking right now" is the least reliable question you can put to a deck, and "what is the current state of this, and what is mine to do" is one it can actually answer.
When you read for their thoughts, you fill the gap with your own hope and fear, and the deck obliges by mirroring you back to yourself. That is why obsessive "do they love me" pulls feel true and then never land. You were reading your own longing the whole time, dressed up as news about them.
There is also the consent piece, and the community is right to keep raising it. Reading someone's private inner life without their knowledge is snooping, plainly. Read the situation, not the person's secrets. Their health, their other relationships, their private business are not yours to open because a querent is curious. If someone wants you to surveil a third party, that is the moment to redirect, not to deliver.
The move that fixes almost all of this is to turn the question back toward the person in front of you. Instead of "does she love me," ask "what do I need to see about this connection." Instead of "what is he hiding," ask "what is mine to do here, and what am I not letting myself admit." Same cards, completely different reading. One is surveillance, the other is self-knowledge, and the second one is both more honest and more accurate.
Sometimes information about a person arrives without being invited. A dream, a sudden flash about someone you barely know. You are not obligated to act on it or to hand it over. Sit with whether it is actually about them or about you, because most "messages about other people" turn out to be the reader's own material wearing a familiar face. If it genuinely seems meant for someone who did not ask, the respectful default is to hold it, not to dump it on them.
If you do read a connection, keep the shape clean. Read the querent's position, the honest state of the bond, and where it goes if nothing changes. At most one card for the other person's general stance toward the situation, and you name that as the softest read on the table. General stance, not private thoughts. Anything more precise than that about someone who is not in the room, you are guessing and calling it sight.
The oldest rule still holds. You read for the person in front of you. When the reading is about someone who is not in the room, stay on your own side of the street, and the work stays clean.
If this is the kind of thing you sit with, it is what I write about at intuwise.com.
The Reading That Followed Us Home (A Lesson in Ethics & Energy)
I need to talk about something that happened quite a long time ago. It shook me to my core and taught me a lesson I won't ever forget. It's about tarot, ethics, and why you should never read for someone without their consent.
I was with friends late one night. One of them, heartbroken after a painful friendship ended, asked me to do a reading on that person. She wanted to know about their life now. I agreed. I did the reading, and in the moment, I didn't feel bad about it.
But as we left our friend's apartment building, the energy shifted instantly. A car alarm blared for no reason. The air felt thick with a negative, heavy wave. I tried to ignore it, telling myself, "Nah, I'm just feeling things," but I knew something was wrong.
Then, we felt it—an energetic attack. I've never felt anything like it. It felt like something was watching us, hunting us. The street, usually full of life and animals, was completely empty and silent. A primal fear took over; I felt like a nightmare monster was chasing me. I wanted to run, but I wouldn't leave my friend.
She was incredible, telling me to stay positive and not to feed the fear. But I was terrified, looking behind me constantly, seeing nothing but feeling everything.
When we finally got home, safe, she told me her part of the story: she felt a cold hand on her arm and a pressure on her throat when she tried to speak louder.
I felt like I had failed. I couldn't defend her. I felt like I lost.
The next day, I asked my cards what it was. The answer was clear: a lesson. A harsh, soul-level lesson that you don't look into someone's life without their permission, especially when the connection is complicated and painful.
I messed up. I invaded someone's spiritual privacy, and it felt like we were met with a consequence. The universe, a spirit, the energy itself—whatever it was—delivered a lesson I couldn't ignore.
I'm sharing this as a reminder to myself and others: Always ask for consent, even energetically. Our gifts come with responsibility. I learned mine the hard way.
Has anyone else experienced a harsh lesson like this? How do you protect your energy during readings?
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As promised here is the link to the ethics i plan to follow!!
And I’m also gonna post it here below with the bullet point part of the list:
⦁ I recognize that the client’s welfare and empowerment is the primary concern.
⦁ I will empower my clients to make their own choices and decisions.
⦁ I will not exploit my clients, such as offering unnecessary services.
⦁ I respect client confidentiality above all else. I will keep confidential the names of clients and all information shared or discussed during readings, unless otherwise requested by the client or required by a court of law.
⦁ I will treat all of my clients with equal respect, regardless of their origin, race, religion, gender, age, or sexual preference.
⦁ I will cultivate my abilities and skills, and will work within the limits of that competence.
⦁ I will recommend clients consult a licensed professional for advice of a legal, financial, medical, or psychological nature that I am not qualified to provide.
⦁ I will nurture my own personal well-being and self-care regimen, and will conduct consultations only if my health and energy levels are sufficient.
⦁ I will respect the client's right, and my right, to terminate a Reading at any point.
⦁ If at any point I feel I am unable to complete a Reading, I will courteously and tactfully request to reschedule or offer a Refund.
⦁ I will only Read for people I have permission to Read for, and will not attempt to Read for unwitting third parties.
⦁ I will conduct myself in a manner that promotes public confidence in the role of Professional Tarot Readers.
⦁ I will never undermine the work of fellow Professional Readers, nor publicly defame them.
⦁ I will accurately communicate the terms by which my services are offered (i.e., qualifications, availability, confidentiality, fees, cancellation policy, and any other significant matters)
⦁ I will refrain from judgment, criticism and personal bias during consultations
⦁ I only provide services to individuals over the age of 18.
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Now some of my added points (subject to change in the future due to skills acquired or better wording, etc)
⦁ I will not identify any deities or other mystical interactions beyond spirit as this is not in my abilities at the present
⦁ I cannot contact the spirits of anyone passed so please do not request that of me
⦁ I have the ultimate right in choosing to undertake a free reading or not because it can effect my welfare, please respect that
⦁ You as the client are welcomed to give feedback and as long as it is given with some measure of non-malicious words or intent I will welcome it
In my last ‘My Tarot Story‘ post, I talked about how I got into tarot and a little about the decks I use. This time I’m going to write about my overall views of myself as a reader, my ethics and what I do and don’t believe about tarot.
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As I’m about to open myself up to read for other people, for monetary compensation, I feel that it’s important for me to make a brief statement about how I approach the tarot/my beliefs in regards to the tarot/my ethics regarding readings.
I am not psychic. I do believe that I am quite intuitive, and I have an intimate relationship with the cards as I have been reading and studying the tarot for 18 years, now. But I am not psychic. I can not tell you exactly what will happen in your future, or give you definitive answers on what you should do in any given situation. All I can do is interpret the cards for you. (Read this quote, it sums up what I mean pretty well.)
I am not a legal professional, a mental health professional, or a medical professional. If you have a serious problem that requires the advice or help of a professional, you can still look to the tarot for guidance, but please follow up by talking to someone who can truly help you.
I don't believe that tarot cards can predict the future in the traditional sense of that term. What they do is haul up imagery that can be related to your situation and its many factors: your mental state, outside forces, etc., and then can be interpreted as to what may be helping and hindering you.
I prefer not to answer yes/no questions. Those are more suited to other forms of divination, such as pendulum readings. When asking a question, try not to phrase it in terms of yes/no. For instance: instead of “Should I quit my job?,” try asking “What may happen if I quit my job?” or “What are the other paths open to me if I quit my job?” Instead of “Will I get together with [this person]?,” try asking “What is hindering me in developing a relationship with [this person]?” or “What are the upsides and downsides of this potential relationship?”
The more specific your question, the better I will be able to interpret the cards. I can do readings for general guidance, but if you want a question answered, the more specifics I know, the better.
I will not post any information about my clients or their readings on this blog or anywhere else online, unless they explicitly tell me they are okay with me doing so. The only situation in which I would publicly post details without a client’s permission would be if they mentioned anything about wanting to harm themselves or others.
I will not discriminate against any client based on race, ethnicity, religion, gender, sexual orientation, or anything else.
I do not read for minors - which, since I live in the US, means anyone under 18. If you want to pay for a reading, you must be 18 or over.
If you have any further questions about my ethics or how I approach the tarot, please feel free to ask.
