i've tangentially seen some kink "discourse" regarding being kink critical and my opinion on the matter is:
no amount of asking yourself why you like something will amount to anything. all it brings is shame and self flagellation in my experience. instead, the best thing you can do is ask yourself "do i carry over beliefs from my kinks into my interactions with others?"
i'll give an example. i have a misogyny kink in that i enjoy being misogynistic to the women i sleep with. i am cautious in my day to day life that i do not bleed those two worlds and instead treat every woman i meet and interact with as a whole human being. i am also a feminist and am intentional about treating women i play with with the utmost respect outside of kink as well.
this is important especially for kinks like the one i explained or ones such as detrans or raceplay. nothing wrong with having kinks, but make sure you're not bringing those kinks into non kink play. some of that might involve learning how to be a better ally to that group of people.
if you are someone who enjoys being on the receiving end of this kink, i implore you to also see how your giver reacts in non nsfw/kink interactions. do these kinks bleed into their everyday life? are they an ally to your cause?
of course, everyone will have different boundaries and whatnot when it comes to these types of things, but i hope i've given a good framework to bounce off of.