#tdfm

[uhahahat]

#아쉬움가득 #마지막장날 #제주도 #일상 #탑동플리마켓 #아라리오비밥스 #플리마켓 #벼룩시장 #last of #tfm #tdfm #tapdongfleamarket at #arariobibobs #jeju #southkorea (Jeju에서)

[taros2200-blog]

Successful man is who they called a successor. #TDFM publicity. (at Ibadan, Nigeria)

[taros2200-blog]

I'm trying to make everything easy for my life. May God help me. #Tdfm publicity (at Ibadan, Nigeria)

[muffyblogs]

things I would much rather say when on the first day of english classes we go around the room and say what we've most recently read than what I've actually most recently read:

"one direction fan fiction, m/m, nipple play, alternate universe - Western"

"the descriptions of cashmere sweaters in the j.crew catalog"

"the encouraging post it note I put on my bathroom mirror"

"the longman & eagle mixed drink menu"

"I do not read in my free time"

[muffyblogs]

I feel that my emotional baggage/ insecurities/ issues are standing in the way of a romantic relationship with this guy. Any advice for the damaged girls of the world? (PS I'm starting to see a psychologist in March, I finally caved.)

There is no fix-all for emotional baggage crowding a relationship, especially when I have no idea what your emotional baggage consists of.

Seeing a therapist/shrink/whatever is, I think, a good start. Continually (for the rest of your life) trying to gain perspective (on yourself, your motivation for doing or not doing things, your relationship, your partner’s motivation for doing or not doing things, etc) is another.

This isn’t something I’ve technically been able to do myself but I do know that forgiving the people who did shitty things to you (yourself first and foremost and everyone else after that) is really not optional. You let go or you carry it forever.

Good luck.

Oh and a P.S. I guess just in case you are doing this: it’s really, really not helpful/sustainable to think yourself in a way in which you are defined by this baggage. “but muffy oh my god I really can’t separate myself from this it’s like an essential part of me I don’t know how to describe myself without this one hang up/traumatic experience/etc" = this either means you are not done healing yet (which is fine, heal in your own time) or you are festering which should be unacceptable to you. Let go. Let it go. You are not your hair etcetera.

[muffyblogs]

I just want you to know that you're someone I really respect. I think a lot of people see "whitegirlblog" and write you off, not realizing the amazing sense of humor you look at your life and culture with. I've seen you get hate for that, so I wanted to tell you this. I love the political stuff you post, because it's not just nonsense talking points and loaded words. I love even more that you seem to have actually educated yourself and formed your own opinions. tl;dr stay awesome

I've just kind of let this sit in my inbox because I don't know what to say other than thank you. Means a lot.