So I been seeing a post go around. And it talks about signs that a person might be being abused, and one was being put on an allowance.
One thing I want to note. Being put on an allowance, vs, being given a kind of stipend.
An allowance, is a thing that is given and taken, traditionally as a parent sees fit. In abusive partners, a partner can take it away at any time for any amount of bad performance. (Aka, do as I say, or you lose this good thing)
This is absolutely a control measure. It demands that the partner perform for their partner, "or else".
A stipend that is given by a spouse, to assist them in paying their bills, but has no "behave yourself" strings attached, is that.
Sure, if the spouse cant afford to continue over time, they might have to dial back or even quit, but it's not a punishment or a malice. Finances happen, and the spouse tried to help as best they could.
There's a texture difference. Always check the texture.











