hello! this is very random and possibly comes to you in a flood of other people learning about your abusive ex and your intertwined life stories and wanting to know this or that info. but I feel compelled for my own sake to say: I hope you're well nowadays! and that it's really impactful to me on a personal level to know of someone who went through the kind of emotional and psychological abuse you did, but is a living breathing, hopefully happy and well adjusted person nowadays. I myself also had an abusive ex that utilized fandom, cult indoctrination techniques, and occult-based psychologic fuckery (the kids call it kinning nowadays) to control me. and though that person was and never will be quite so famous as your ex, and even though I've been away from them for 7 years now, the impact it's had on my life is immeasurable. it's weird to say "I feel comforted by a stranger I don't know going through similar strange fandom-based abuse and being kind of functional afterwards, so thank you for existing and being vocal about it," but, yeah. thank you. all the best to you and your family.
Hi friend :) I'm glad you got free too. Yes I am very happy and reasonably functional. It's wild that there's actually a term for it now - when I got out it was incomprehensible to most people. Not exactly mainstream now but it's a lot less ... out there. Sort of. Grading on a curve.
The aftereffects years later really are a thing. I still find little parts I need to process or discard in my brain all these years later. It definitely gives me a different perspective on things going on now. A lot of people are learning about cults now that about a third of our country is in one.
Hope your holiday of choice, if you celebrate any, is joyful. Thanks for the message. ♥️
