#thatdrummingnoise

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thatdrummingnoise replied to your photoset:Some old pictures of that time I played drums in...

That is awesome!

thatdrummingnoise Thanks! Playing outdoors is always a fun time. And of course I had people come up to me and ask to sit down and play. Haha. Good times.

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thatdrummingnoise said: Oh, I’m definitely with you on this. Most of my friends are ExxPs, and my now s.o. is an ENFP. It’s been great so far, we never have a dull moment. I think these types are the most capable of pulling me out of my shell.

Aye, I agree with you. Never have a dull moment, always some craziness afoot. Yeah, they always bring me out of my shell too. I'm not sure if would happen as much with other types haha.

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thatdrummingnoise said: As an NF type, and knowing my way around all the NFs I have to agree with you. Which…I don’t mind it too much, but most of us get so worked up and take everything personally all the time. I have to laugh at it, but does that tend to piss you off?

Hmm, I won't lie to you and say it doesn't bother me. It annoys me at times, yes. It's different for me and many NTs because a lot of us don't take things personally. I hardly take anything personally, taking most things with a grain of salt. I mean people can say what they want about me, I don't give a fuck because as long as I know what I'm doing the people trying to put me down don't really matter. You can't be friends or win over everyone in life, it's a foolish endeavor, so do what you do and don't let other people get to you. I find that people who get very emotional don't think they can put a cap down on their emotions. You don't have to be an angry person if you don't want to. You don't have to allow people to piss you off and ruin your day-- you're in control of how you're feeling, not anyone, not external factors. People will say and do things, but it's on you to either allow them to get to you or deflect it.

It's just a difference in personality, most of my friends and my boyfriend are feeling types. Not all of them take it to heart, though some do. They can take things personally at times, even though things aren't necessarily an attack on them. 

That said it's often times a problem when I have to give critiques to other people because they'll get mad at me. I think it's understandable that people get mad at "critiques" that are don't help you improve and just insult you or whatever, I get that. I just don't understand when I try to help someone with a full critique by saying what went well and what can be done to improve things, someone getting mad. Especially when it's asked for. For me if you can't accept criticism, you're beyond help. I think even if a person doesn't like hearing it and is mad at you for bit, it's fine so long as they get over it and use it to their advantage because that would be a sensible thing to do. People take these things like their ideas or their fandoms or something like it and take it personally when someone points out a flaw. And it does become a bother, especially when I'm not going through calling people names. Yet, I'm accused of being an insensitive moron frequently. 

I'm not saying being openly emotional is a bad thing, it just isn't good when emotion is taken for fact. It's dangerous. A lot of people think their emotions are more powerful than the truth. 

I hope that makes sense.

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thatdrummingnoise said:THANK you, if I had a blog that posts these kinds of things, I would definitely reblog.

Thanks! Glad I'm not the only being driven crazy by this.