🌴 (palm tree) - Is there anything that you do to spend time together?
🌾 (sheaf of rice) - What does your average day look like? How does plurality intersect with it?
mmmmmm weve been trying to figure out how to structure out response because these answers go hand in hand
🌾 (sheaf of rice) - What does your average day look like? How does plurality intersect with it?
right now we work part time at a cafe! we have 3 roomies, all of which we are very good friends with and know that we all exist (one of them is my brother lol) we usually work early morning->afternoon shift. we try to keep a list of hobbies going for us (individually and collectively) so on our days off we have stuff to do to keep us from going insane.
day to day schedule on work days; wake up 6-7 ish, work (register, food prep/production, waitressing, cleaning, weve also been learning barista), get home around 3-5. we try to practice clarinet and go for a run every day if we can. (lore drop. weve been playing clarinet for like. a decade and have plans to go to school for it and such) pink is really high energy so it usually benefits from exercise+music daydream time. some nights we see friends, some nights we dont do anything, some nights we do various chores and tasks and activities, usually we watch a show or youtube
day to day schedule on off days; wake up 6-8 (consistent sleep schedule lets fucking gooooo), chill in bed for a while, currently trying to break the habit of immediately going on our phone. then its the same litany of Stuff we do in our off hours but we get a whole day. clarinet, maybe even some time for music theory/composition, spend time with friends, go for a walk, go for a run, do some chores and various tasks (right now we are working on scheduling doctors/therapists, dyeing/altering clothes, and refurbishing some wooden chairs), consume my media and the like.
and journal. we journal (almost) every dayyyyy I love my journal hashtag my journal.
okey now how does my plurality intersect with all that!! the way our system works we are usually co con to an extent. we are relatively new in terms of discovered plurality and its an ever evolving mess trying to describe or even understand how our system works, but we were working on some stuff the other night that ill post eventually.
usually all three of us are conscious in front to an extent, with maybe one or two people having a stronger influence/presence at any given point. because of this we are fairly fluid in terms of whos fronting when. it also gets really confusing pretty quick. we try not to let it bother us.
we also have a pretty constant dissociation that makes it hard to process things, store memories, and actually physically experience sensations.
all of that in mind, we kind of operate as one brain fog soup to get through most parts of our day. occasionally calling up a specific person for help. visual metaphor would be, oil spill esq slime puddle sloshing and shifting around. sometimes a body part or a voice comes out and does something before falling back in. that is mostly during high masking situations or other periods of high stress (social events, work, you get it)
this is already so long but I want to add a caviot; I know we just described it as objectively pretty distressing but its not all bad. theres a graph to be made somewhere of like. integration of identity/dissociation/distress. whatever. nuance to everything ever.
recently!! however!!! we have all been working very hard to be less dissociated/more connected to our enviornment. with this weve seen clearer senses of self, less distress, better memory, and longer periods of fronting/strongest influence.
the biggest changes our plurality has on our day to day life between distinct people is more mundane stuff; changes in energy levels and interests. Lucy gets tired really quickly (they also are the most in touch with our body... surely this is a coincidence...) so will want to do lower energy things, like sit quietly for long periods of time (my favorite) and whatever. Pink gets frustrated really quick especially when it comes to sensory stuff (has the kind of autism that makes her want to break all of the bones in our hands. I believe this is called sensory seeking.) and hatesssss playing the clarinet. itll usually either try to get one of us to do clarinet or put on a show while she plays. blue is the Task Master. please please please please give him a task or a chore or a list. please. we have a running joke that the cleaner the kitchen is the worse his mental state is. love u man.
oh and also lucy does not really like media, it is too overwhelming for them most of the time, blue likes it as a distraction but has been watching less in an attempt to dissociate less, and pink. I am the media fan number 1!!!! smile. please put on my show please guys can we put on my podcast guys what about my media.
i dont know if we actually answered the question here but its my blog and theres no wrong way to answer. lore drop!!!!
🌴 (palm tree) - Is there anything that you do to spend time together?
all that being said, there is some stuff we do On Purpose together.
journalling is probably The Activity we do as a group. one of the biggest reasons we like it so much is that its a place for all of us to put down our thoughts, reread them as many times as we forget them, talk to each other, etc. did yuo guys know we like to journal.
blue and pink surprisingly (to me. us) do a lot of chores together. the strat is that blue Does A Task while pink gets to watch media or listen to music and make up stories. keeping each other company sort of?
the last one that everyone gets a little embarrassed about is we do like to hold hands. it doesnt matter whos where or whats going on. hand hold! benefits of 24/7 co con B))
