In "the first value judgement" post, I said that the only justified irregularity was valuing yourself differently - because it parallels the difference between your direct experience of yourself and your indirect inference of others.
This is actually very wrong in a subtle way. In truth, no choice of mind valuing is truly arbitrary - for any given life experience, one choice is the empirically justified one, but which choice that is depends on your exact life experience so far.
Consider a human infant, whose interactions so far have mostly been with its mother. Will this child experience the mind of a stranger the same way it experiences the mind of its mother?
Not at first. Early on in its life, the child has vastly more empirical mind interferometry evidence for the mother. When the child first begins to develop theory of mind, perhaps the evidence available to it so far suggests neither
"minds (of which I am one)", nor
"me, and other minds (which are a different kind of thing than me)",
but something more like "me, other complex deep minds (like mother), simple flat minds (like strangers)". Because it might not need the same rich complexity of cognition and experience to explain what little it has seen of strangers so far.














