You intrigue me a bunch, lady. I'm a Capricorn moon with a Virgo mars, hello there. I'm coming for advice since I appreciate your maturity. Have you ever felt the need to control others to keep yourself stable once you feel you're falling off track? I feel like control is such a big thing in my life that playing with other's emotions to ground myself is the shittiest habit I have. It steams a lot from my indecision with love. I pull them in then once they're mine I realize I (1/2)
(cont. “(2/2) I never wanted them like that. Like, I know I need no ones approval but I tend to slip into those bad habits. Sometimes I feel like love just wasn't meant for me, since I just don't seem to distinguish between love and friendship and and put healthy boundaries between me and people. I understand it's partly if not all about some insecurities of mine. Mind giving me your advice? Thanks!”)
I used to feel the need to control others. Ultimately, I realized that self-control is the only control that matters, because it’s the only control that’s attainable, and therefore realistic. You achieve this by taking time to contemplate what you’re grateful for. This isn’t merely the “right” thing to do. It also improves your mood. Also, being able to handle your own feelings, thoughts, anxieties and emotions by being concerned with being your best self and not being emotionally attached will make these feelings of instability fade. You go with the flow. Of course you want things to happen obviously, and are intrepid enough to make things happen, but you won’t be crushed if it doesn’t. It’s not an easy ability to acquire — but it can be done. Not totally and not consistently, but enough to make a difference.
