To be honest, I don’t like labels. At their best, they are a reflection of who you are. However, at their worst, they can be pretty confining. Since your gender and sexual identity are things that exist in a spectrum, I find it very unnecessary to restrict yourself to a certain identity.
Throughout the course of our lives, at one point or another, we’ve felt the influence of society’s views on us. Regardless if you are aware of it or not, our identities have been affected by assumptions others make about us. These assumptions turn into labels and before we know it, these labels get attached to us. It’s pretty hard to shake off something that reflects how people think about you, but it could also become pretty harmful if your identity is dependent on the opinions of others.
Personally, I think our identity is something we should explore. Considering that we go through multiple developmental stages in our lives, I feel that we should use it as an opportunity for growth. Change is the only thing constant in life. Life would not be as fulfilling if we remained stagnant. And so, currently, I identify as a woman whose gender expression is usually feminine. I’m also sexually and romantically attracted to both guys and girls. These things are subject to change but also things that reassure me of who I am at this point in time. And, for me, that’s more than enough.
