I hope this is ok to send this to you, if not please feel free to disregard. I have a f/o and he is so amazing! Like, I can't believe we chose each other and I found him at the right time in my life. But I can't shake off the feeling that he deserves better. I don't feel like I'm pretty enough for him, but I know he loves and cares for me, so why do I have these thoughts? I'm just really struggling with it lately.
i totally get it, anon!!! 🖤
i'm sorry to hear that you're strugglin' with it lately, but i completely get it. sometimes it's hard!!! the insecurities and the doubt sorta creep into your head, even in the happiest and healthiest relationships, and they can be hard to get rid of. happens to all of us!!!
when i'm feelin' this way, i like to look at my f/o. because our f/os aren't perfect... but they're "pretty enough" for us, aren't they? with all their little quirks and idiosyncrasies, even with the things they consider flaws, they are more than "pretty enough" for us. i bet you wouldn't change a single thing about them. just like they wouldn't change a single thing about you.
and you might think!!! well, that's different. they actually are pretty, they actually do deserve this love, whatever... and so are you!!! so do you!!! every single character probably has something that makes them feel like they don't deserve the affection you give them. whether it's their past, their present, a deep rooted insecurity, something. every f/o has something that makes them not perfect. so either you're both deserving of love or neither of you are. and it's not the second one, i promise!!!
anon, what he deserves is to be loved by someone he loves in return, and that's you. he deserves you. i can tell, just by this message, that you absolutely adore him. you admire him and appreciate him and you two have something special. there is no better than that, there is no prettier than that, there is nothing else. there is only you. 🖤
